(Thread Closed) The world according to baby bump
Reasons why I should have my son taken away from me for neglect:
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1) I don't wake dd up every 2-3 hrs to nurse and only did for the first night home. She's probably starving despite her fantastic growth over the last month.
2) I use cloth diapers, but keep those devilish disposables on hand. And I use them. Lol
3) I don't change her the second she pees or poops and I surely don't wake her to do it unless its absolutely necessary. I'm one of those bad moms who buys into that whole thing about diapers being meant to hold more than a tiny amount of urine and who would rather let baby finish her giant poo than change the diaper 5 times in 20 minutes because each fart is a little more poo.
4) I gave formula twice in her first week...couldn't keep up with her demands right away so I supplemented.
5) I took prescribed medicine throughout my pregnancy and continue now even though I breastfeed.
6) if we aren't going out anywhere, dd may spend the day in diapers. She couldnt care less what she has on, and with her reflux I see no point in getting 5 outfits soaked in spit up and pissing her off every time I change outfits.
Lol mollys one of them first time pregnant mommies that know all about parenting and how it should be and what the best way to parent without EVER having a child! I envy you that you know EVERYTHING before your child is even here. smh how annoying. You better set an alarm to change the baby every 2 hours when they start sleeping through the night. Oh lord lol.
i guess i was thinking of it the wrong way and like i said i didn't think about the fact that the diapers keep them dry, and its soaking in the wet mess that causes a problem.
very true i have no idea what's it like to be a mom, at first glance it just seemed so gross to be in a pissy diaper.
sorry for using the word neglect.
and im thankful for the informative replies about diapers etc.
As a child from neglect real neglect when I got pregnant with my first child I didn't give a s*** about diapers BF FF any of that all I was worried about was not being the mother my mother was to me! Neglect is something you carry with for a lifetime I still remember all I went through and will always struggle with it day to day
Well then Molly if you know what real neglect is... Then apparently you just need to pull ur head out of your ass n quit judging... N throwing that around... Bc YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT A CHILD SLEEPING 6 hours in 1 DIAPER IS NOT NEGLECT... plain n simple...
Seems like u need to grow up a lil
f*** the diapers....if you meant this statement like i took it then....I'm sorry Molly did you just tell me you have been through more then I have?? Your kidding right you have absolutely no f*** ing clue the childhood I lived! How dare you say well I have been through more so ya....who the hell do you think you are to say that? Ya my mom went to prison to supposed to get out 2014, but that's not the point! You have absolutely no right to make a comment like that! If that's not how you meant it then fine please go to next statement
Now back to the diapers....if you really did experience a childhood like that then you should no leaving a child in a wet diaper is not neglect!
I'm sorry but something's not adding up
Like a lot of people have mentioned Molly.
Some of us moms have lived through real neglect. And if I were you I would throw that word around so vicariously. Bc true neglect is a life long burden ppl carry. N I'm sorry if all I ever had to worry about was sleeping through the night wearing just one diaper, believe me, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN GREAT!
You apparently know nothing of neglect/abuse... Bc then u wouldn't say that. And you being a FTM and you're saying you're gonna change a diaper everytime it gets wet, then u better have a lot of time n a lot of money. N your views on mothering n raising children are beyond absurd, n sure, being a FTM can do that to you. So I'd advise you to change about 100 or so diapers before you start handing out judgement. Because you are in fir a rude awakening. And one day you might become face to face with a real neglect case and you're gonna remember this post and then youll see why some of us women get a lil touchy over the 'neglect/abuse' words.
Oh and also it'd be a real treat to see you pulled on the side of the road, checking n changing your LO j bc she peed a lil. But then maybe you're the live n learn type.. Bc you'll see a baby pees so often n it'll seem stupid to change em that much.
@KLnMG i went thru veryy similar situations as a child with my mother, she's now in prison until 2015 and im really just surprised she's still alive and I've gone thru much more after being taken from her at 9 so yes i know what neglect and abuse, every single type of abuse at that, is. i just thought the idea of sleeping in pee was gross, my bad.
So Molly the reason why diapers cost so much is because they are specifically designed to hold the moisture in and away from the babies skin so that they don't get rashes.
Diapers contain a special lining with an absorbent gel in which turns to little crystals when they get wet. The whole point of these diapers is to allow baby to sleep restfully without waking because he is uncomfortable..
You will pick up a lot of these interesting facts as you continue on your journey through motherhood!
If your baby needs changing he will wake up -And wake you up! its a very simple natural process, designed to keep mom and baby happy!
Ermm Mollys ..
If you and your baby are both sleeping in the night how will you know when she pees? Will you set a pee alarm? Have you invented a special type of diaper/nappy that beeps when there's pee in it? Will you camp out all night checking for pee pee smell?
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You make me laugh seriously.
Wait until you actually HAVE a newborn to care for and see how hard it is.
Plus you crazy.
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@molly let me tell you something about neglect!!
Being 5 years old driving around (going on treasure hunts) with your spun out mother looking for "treasure" (drugs)!!
Being left at a crack house & your mom is so high she forgot where she left you!
Falling off your monkey bars in your back yard breaking your wrist and staying outside for hours because your mothers to high to notice!
At 5 years old taking care of your newborn sister like they are your own child!!
Pulling a needle out of your mothers arm because she might OD!
Watching your home turn into a crack house!!
Having your own mother bring strange men home to sleep with them for drugs
Leaving a 4 year old at home alone so you can go get drugs!!
Being shoved into a dresser by your own mother!
That lady is neglect I don't want to hear a damn thing about how I don't change my child's diaper at night and that is neglect my early childhood with my mother was f*** ing neglect not that!!
like i said if those diapers work like they say and your babies aren't getting infections and rashes from pee then im totally wrong, it just seemed nasty to me to lay in it all night.
if they keep them dry and the urine off their skin then sure.
im not a "nutbag" though for thinking its gross, maybe mis informed but not crazy or nuts. i bet all of you thought it was gross too before you had your first baby.
@Molly first, diapers are very absorbant and keep baby dry. are u gonna change ur child if he/she pees just once in the diaper? ull be changing it ever 5 mins if u do that. second, if a baby is uncomfortable they'll wake up. its ok to let a baby sleep in a wet diaper. its not neglect. I highly doubt ur gonna wake every hr or two to change ur lo. and no, babies don't always go right back to sleep, it can take hrs. so have fun running on no sleep.
and sweetheart, good luck to u when u grow old and go into a nursing home, cuz u won't be changed 100x a day. u will be sitting in ur pee, maybe even ur poo depending on the home ur in.
If baby has a poopie diaper she will most likely wake up.. Ur expectations of parenting are unrealistic.. YOU CANNOT 100% PREVENT A DIAPER RASH...if you think u can you are setting urself up to be disappointed. First pop the baby out and then and only then bash the methods that other mothers with REAL already born babies use
My child is a year and stopped pooping at night at around a month also around the same time he stopped waking up around the clock. Poos are noisy you will hear it. He's also never has had an infection or a rash.
I just don't understand why you would torture a child by waking it up to change a diaper when he is sleeping peacefully. And yes my child thinks its torture he hates having his diaper changed and we would go back to him only sleeping a few hours a day and he would fall behind on his development from lack of sleep and crying but at least he wouldn't sit in filth.
bahhaaa ... nut bag, in all seriousness Molly we all have children some of us a few and know from experience that you don't wake a baby to change a pee and if they pooh they generally wake up after mine always did and they never soaked through a diaper or had a rash or infection diapers are designed to keep the moisture off of baby's skin. until you have like 7 months under your belt you might not get it. and some children won't go right ba k to sleep some will cry for hours upset and thrown off by being woken up. were not nasty or lazy we just learned from experience. lazy is laying on the couch when you lil one is sitting on the floor soaked... I don't think woman should be able to judge until they have a child of their own.
lol im a nutbag for thinking s*** and piss is gross, yeah, who the hell doesn't love sitting in piss?! crazy!!!
and maybe my mind will change and maybe those diapers keep em dry, if you guys aren't getting rashes and infections it must work.
but please dear bb gods excuse me for thinking piss and feces are nasty lol.
Wow really I should have my child taken away because I don't wake him up to change his diaper at night? You honestly wake your child multiple times a night just to check? The diapers wick away moisture first of all so they aren't wet. Second of all I don't wake up to check my pad multiple times a night and that's even grosser and third of all the public health nurses say that it's fine in fact they even say don't wake for poo ( I would but he doesn't go at night). If baby was uncomfortable he would let me know.
Should I pm you with my number so you can call child services on my?
fair enough if they can go back to sleep they probably will after screaming and crying for 2 to 6 hours and after you have ripped all your hair out in frustration all cause they were woken up just to change a wet nappy. if its poo then I would change it straight away but not if its just wee.
Lol mollysmom you don't even have your baby here yet! Your opinion WILL change! I thought the same and did change my baby's diaper through the night. And then one day I realized it wasn't necessary (yup that Darn 12hr leak protection diaper) and everyone lived and slept happily ever after....
Who said anything about letting baby sleep in a diaper with poo? Nobody!!! Like I said don't knock it til u try it... Lots of diaper cream and pampers baby dry is all my little one needs. Everyone clocks in a good 8-10 hours of sleep and nobody gets hurt in the process... And my daughter has yet to get a rash from this!
until you have your baby I don't think you have any right to comment. have you never heard the saying never wake a sleeping baby. nappies are so absorbant that they can go 12 hours without a change. the only time I let DS go that long is when he is peacefully asleep as soon as he wakes I change him. I have never had any problems with rashes or infections
Molly your passion is admirable but EVERY health visitor, midwife, nanny etc will tell you:
NEVER WAKE A SLEEPING BABY
Its the First rule of motherhood!
Honestly babies need to sleep. If you wake them you cause them unnecessary distress. Nappies are designed to hold urine in a sanitary way to avoid infection and rashes. There are plenty of things to disagree with in the above posts- I don't believe in feeding my child crap, or sitting him in front of the TV etc but waking up a baby to change its nappy is not something you will want to do...
say whatever you want lol its nasty and youre nasty for doing it. they can go back to sleep, you're just too lazy to put in the effort to get them back to sleep.
ha, im ignorant because i know s*** and piss is gross and unhealthy to soak in lolll.
sounds like you're ignorant for thinking its okay.
I'm doing it ladies...
U so ignant.
Oh my lord, you even got the fudged up spelling. You don't have A child yet, much less CHILDREN!!!! You think what you want, but I guarantee you will be crying for help because your baby won't sleep or won't do this or that. All because you want to change a pissy diaper.
Wow. Ok girls I'm getting off before I fall off the wagon :(
its common sense? lol
so because they're sleeping so hard and haven't realized they pissed or crapped them selves its okay? no, its f*cking gross and unhealthy.
and im due in 2 months so zero but it doesn't take having a baby already to know that's nasty and horrible and unhealthy.
answer this question, how would you feel after a night of sleeping in piss and sh*t? you wouldnt think that's nasty?? lol if you pissed your self but were super tired would you just lay there? i only see that happening if you're blacked out drunk off your ass, in which case its still nasty as hell.
when i have my baby i will be checking her and changing her diaper if need be so my poor baby that can't do it her self won't have to lay in her own filth.
wtf... like seriously people??? you think this is okay? you're baby is soaking in germs!!!
to each their own:/
WOW. I am appalled at all you horrible mothers who use realisitic, sensible, parenting tactics to raise your children. How dare you not set a standard and go above and beyond, reaching above the stars and moon to give your children unreachable goals in the stratsopheres and biospheres of never-ever land! If you continue this madness, I will be forced to notify the medical authorities to permanently shut your wombs and for CPS to take your children so they can teach you what REAL Parenting is....im on the verge
lmao!!!!,my turn!!!!
I had an elective c-section (size issues)
I spank my 4yr old
I have a cat and a dog
the dog sleeps with my 4yr old(try waking that boy by shaking unless your me. I dare you!)
he has mickey d's
he was split fed, partiality formula partiality bm
the dog is the best baby sitter outside ever (come near our yard when my son and his dog are outside I double dare you)
I will be having another section with my twins
I will bring them home in a onsie and socks
I will split feed these two as well
if they sleep all night I won't wake them
and I believe in God
I'm doomed
Hmmm.
I formula feed, my 3 year old eats McDonalds, I only change the babies diaper at night if she wakes up. Sorry but im not setting an alarm and waking her up for that. My son is circumcised, both children wear character clothing and second hand stuff, my daughter wears just a onesie often because it's freakin hot.
Don't knock it til u try it!!!! Pampers 12 hr protection are awesome keeps baby nice and dry all night! Plus my baby doesn't wet her diaper as much throughout the night. It's worked great for my family everyone gets to sleep through the night and we are all happy and rested.
i don't understand letting them stay in a pee pee diaper all night no matter whos tried:/ you can always go back to sleep.
every time that Pampers comerical comes on that advertises 12 hour leak protection ire whatever my boyfriend and i are like wth? why is that necessary because who lets their baby have on a soiled diaper that long???
there's no way that's healthy or sanitary:/ would you keep on piss soaked clothes all night? the ammonia would burn your skin and create a rash and infection.
Yes springtimebaby,
junk food!!! All kinds of junk food!!! I also don't change her diaper through the night cuz I like my sleep as much as she does. I let her put pretty much anything in her mouth without worrying about germs. And I let her watch tv (a lot). She is actually watching tv right now laughing her head off all wired on chocolate milk... What a happy baby!!! She hasn't been sick once, has never refused any foods including all veggies, was 2 months premature yet has reached all her 9 months milestones. :).... I guess is working out pretty good for us
I was induced and got an epidural with my oldest
Csection with my second
Both boys are circumsised
I formula fed both
My oldest has eaten McDonald's
My oldest cosleeps and is 2
My oldest watches tv and loves the transformers movies
My youngest rocks just a onsie on a regular basis...and out in public
The buffer for poo when you know they aren't done so wait a minute or so so they don't poo on you.
I don't leave them wet just to leave wet but it's not like I constantly check.
I will spank my children when necessary.
I will be circumcising my son.
I will raise my kids in church and encourage them to wait until marriage for sex (apparently this means I will be isolating my children and stunting them emotionally and intellectually. This also apparently means that they will grow up to resent me and rebel.)
I have two dogs.
+ I take dd to daycare so i can sleep because i work overnights
+ I formula feed
+ I go to the bar maybe once everyother month
+ dd is currently sleeping in bed with me in a boppy on top of the covers while i type this and yes i will be falling asleep shortly with her in bed as well
lily I know I brought by giant golden retriever into the kennel today to drop him off (I had to drag his butt in lol) and had to leave the kids in the car it was raining too I could see them the whole time but I kept thinking how the ladies of bb would hang my ass if they knew
Well I have two kids. Sometimes I have to leave them in the car while I return the shopping cart to the corral three cars down. Sometimes I leave them in the car while I pay for gas INSIIIIDE. Even though they are 10 feet away from me through a glass window I am a horrible mom.
I should have my child ripped away from me because:
* I leave her alone so I can go to the washroom.
* I have given her ice cream, chocolate and all other kinds of junk (she is 9 months)
* I only buy her used pretty much EVERYTHING
* I stopped breastfeeding her at 6 month because "I" didn't enjoy it.
* plus most of the things you said, except the poopie diaper one.
Please PM me for information on how u may reach me to take my child away. She deserves better!!!
@kentucky I do to, she can't answer how old she is who knows if she is even telling the truth about her childhood someone who has really been through neglect would not say that