Ladies, help. I'm stuck and need advice. Sorry so long
Ladies, help. I'm stuck and need advice. Sorry so long
My relationship is failing. I hate it, but pretending it's not is not going to fix it. My SO and I have been together for nearly 6 years. We've had our ups and downs during that time, and have always been able to discuss things and work them out. I think those days may be behind us and it's breaking my heart. We have two young children and I'm expecting our third. I'm tired. I'm just so tired and I don't have the strength to fight for us anymore if I'm the only one who cares.
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Sounds like he's become very complacent. Why isn't he out looking for work? He seems like he has no sense of urgency whatsoever.
You sound too soft OP.
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I'm not sure what to tell you. Personally I would tell him that it's not right or fair for him to expect you to mother him snd your children. He's acting like a spoiled brat. Why should you have to find him a job?? He's an adult for crying out loud. Stop helping him and tell him he either needs to get a job or leave. Being a single parent is really hard but from what it sounds like you're doing that anyway.
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It sounds like you are doing everything on your own already, he needs to wake up or he needs to go! You don't need basically another child (from how he is acting) to take care of! Good luck!
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Sounds like his self esteem is at a low and that he's in a bad place. That's absolutely no excuse to make you feel bad. I have no useful advice that hasn't been said but I hope it all gets better for you
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Temp agencies and fast food restaurants are always hiring. He needs to get off his duff and support his family.
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It sounds like he is depressed and sabotaging your relationship. He may feel emasculated. That doesn't give him the right to say hurtful things. The two of you absolutely need to talk about this. I fear though that he would be very defensive. It's clear he needs to go back to work to get his self worth back, but if he won't you may need to break down & give him an ultimatum.