@s.m.m he is over 10pounds. Sorry I'm abit tired and typed the wrong buttons

This sounds exactly like my daughter and she has silent reflux.

So your 3 month old is nearly 20 lbs then.

He's probably so used to over eating that he's always got a tummy ache and eats more to try and soothe the ache

10kg or do u mean 10pounds?x

I don't see a problem with trying a little rice cereal with milk. All my babies were 10 lbs and we're ready at 3 months to eat. By six months, they were eating all veggies and fruits mixed with cereal. It depends on your baby. Do what you feel is right.

@awesome he only spits up when his full and thats very rarely he does that. Probably once or twice a week at the most.

I forgot to say thank you to those who did give advice, you all know what its like when your little one wakes up while your in the middle of doing something.

I have tried giving him a quater teaspoon of rice cereal in his bottles to help buy he struggles with the next size teet. He is gaining weight. I think he is roughly around the 9.5kg maybe even 10kg. I have an appointment to see the doctor next week so we could get to the bottom of this.

Ive been feeling the top of his mouth for teeth coming through and the front part of his gums are really hard compared to the rest of his gums. He maybe early in teething.

Does your little one spit up alot? Gaining weight? I think it sounds like your baby is teething. What does your baby weigh?

Hey OP, I was also given the go ahead to give a teaspoon of rice cereal to my son at 3.5 months, I chose not to. However around the 5 month mark I will definitely reconsider! Speak to your paediatrician, or health nurse and they’ll be able to give you the best advice regarding your son Xx also if you want to start him off on veggies i would suggest steaming and mashing your own! It’s more gentle on bubs tummy and all natural!

As well as everything else that gets posted on here ?

OP it's not you, don't take it personally. This question just happens to be a hot button issue. The debate over when to start solids is a controversial topic.

Don't let a couple bad apples ruin it for you.

That's not a way to be. There's plenty of women on here with great advice that are respectful about it.

I've never had this issue when my son was younger, so I can't really rule anything out for you. I feel bad for your little one though. I suggest finding a paediatrician asap and get to the root of the problem.

It never hurts to look for a new doctor. Especially when it comes down to your baby.

Good luck

You did get advice. It may not be what you wanted to hear or how you wanted to hear it, but advice was given. Speak to a pediatrician. Good luck!

I never knew it was such a bad thing to give the people who are helping me more intel to go off. Im sorry i choose not to give my son a dummy but my son started off using me when i breastfeed as his dummy and he does the same with his bottles which we take out before it could give him tummy pains.

If i increase his ounces any more there wont be enough room left in the bottle. I may need to go up to the next size bottles in this case.

Im sorry for asking for help. I know to not come here looking for advice again.

have u tried pacifiers? my dr usually told me when we should increase oz and what's typical etc has heat been to his regular week visits?

It’s kinda hard to take control of a complete stranger’s situation on the internet. People gave her advice, she didn’t really wanna listen to said advice but wanted to come up more excuses.

My son's pedi told me to start cereal at 4 months. Once a day until he got used to it and not very thick. I would get a doctor's opinion before you start any thing.

@wishing comment is a great example of giving great information without belittling a person.

@PP

No when you ask for advice that’s a person opportunity to tell you what they may or may not do in your situation or what they recommend ultimately the decision is on YOU! So advice is not telling somebody what to do that wouldn’t be giving advice that would be taking control of a situation that’s not yours to control

You want to wait until baby is showing ALL signs of readiness- able to sit unassisted, loss of tongue thrust reflex, mastery of the pincer grasp, six months of age. It’s developmentally normal for your baby to be starting to show signs at this age, but it doesn’t mean they’re ready for solids yet, just that they’re getting ready to be ready lol.

How many ounces is baby drinking per day? Are you bf or Ff?

What? She asked for advice but not to be told what to do? That doesn't even make sense. When you're asking for advice you're essentially asking "what should I do"......Hence, everyone telling her what to do in her situation.

Op asked for advice not a lecture from all the baby specialist on here. I’m sure she just wanted to see if anyones baby had the same problems and if so what or what not did you do to help. The problem is women on here don’t know how to give advice without belittling a person if their opinions are not the same. It’s a difference in helping someone and bashing someone ??‍♀️ I’m just saying some of the user on here comment on every damn post telling people what they should and shouldn’t be doing with their baby I understand giving info based on what a pediatrician would say or what your child pediatrician said but just like we are all different so are each and every one of our pediatricians they have different advice and different methods that they feel work or don’t work all depending on their amount of experience rather they are old school doctors or new school doctors but we also have common sense of our own so do what’s best for your child!!!!

?there’s always the ask for advice but won’t take it post.

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My daughter pedi recommended putting a spoon full of rice cereal in her bottle to help her tolerant her formula better. It has worked wonders for her I would talk to pedi about your concerns but it’s definitely different strokes for each baby.

Of course there's no guarantee a pacifier will work but op won't even try one and it could be a simple fix to the issue. My oldest son would never use a pacifier either but he breastfed so he used me as his pacifier. Babies like to suck. Why would you not just try one and see if it makes a difference? Why would you rather baby be uncomfortable than to just try a pacifier first? That just doesn't make sense.

Op, you could also try sitting baby up after eating. My second son had to sit in a swing after nursing because he would spit up and be miserable after eating. I just used a baby swing and sat him in there and it seemed to help, along with a pacifier. Once he was a little older and found his hands he became a thumb sucker so no pacifier.

First, there is no guarantee that a pacifier will do the trick. Some babies just won't take them. My son didn't and we TRIED to get him to. There is nothing wrong with not wanting your child to use one.

A pediatrician is definitely a great idea. My lo was prescribed zantac. It worked for him and he grew out of it.

Sounds like he could have reflux or stomach discomfort. The formula soothes his throat so he wants more. And babies have a natural need to suck so I'd strongly suggest the pacifier since you're not breastfeeding and offering your nipple to pacify his sucking needs. Also pace feed him so he can fall asleep on the bottle.

Inconsistent sleeping is extremely normal for babies and trust me, solid food will not improve that. His sleep will be all over the place possibly until he's two years old. Babies go thru several growth spurts and their sleep is disrupted. A LOT of people think every time a baby cries they need to eat but that's not true. You need to establish ways of getting him to sleep, like a baby swing, car ride, walk around wearing him, stroller, etc.

They recommend waiting until 6 because LOs digestive system isn't developed enough to properly digest food until then. I would definitely wait.

Feeding a baby anything besides formula or breast milk before 6 months can cause lifelong damage to their digestive system. Baby is Not ready for solids yet, wait until 6 months.

So you would rather your baby be up all night and miserable than to give a pacifier? That makes no sense. Babies comfort by sucking. Because he has no comfort mechanism, he's probably using the bottle and then it's giving him a tummy ache because he's getting too much formula. Try a pacifier and see if anything improves

as far as the amount of formula he takes or if he sleeps better with it. If not, then just stop using it.

Don't use baby food yet as baby is too young for that.

You're complaining baby doesn't sleep. But you have a means to help, the pacifier, and you're refusing to use it. And honestly it's not about you or your partner. It's about your poor, uncomfortable baby who probably just wants to suck on something and the only thing he has to suck on is the bottle, which then hurts his belly so he wants to suck on something and again bottle. It's a cycle that is hurting him. Try the pacifier and see if it improves. You may not like the pacifier, your partner may not either but if it helps baby feel better, why wouldn't you use it? There are a ton of mom's in here with multiple kids. When most of them are telling you try a pacifier, there's probably a reason for it.

My 3 year old use to feed like that.. He was always a big boy though and could eat atleast 9-12 bottles a day with about 8oz each. Some babies just eat more than others! At 3 years old, my LO still LOVES to eat anything and everything! I would not start on pureed or rice cereal for a few more months and make sure LO can sit up unassisted to make sure bub doesn't choke ? hopefully you can find a happy medium!

6-8 oz 10 times a day is waaaaaay too much. That's 60 to 80 ounces in a day, I'm pretty sure 40 ounces is the max amount in 24 hours and that's even A LOT!

It sounds like he is over eating and it's causing his stomach to hurt, which makes him want to eat more to try to soothe it. I would honestly think he needs to be seen by a dr to figure out if there is anything more going on. Reflux can make them want to eat frequently and can be silent too, where they don't spit up.

ETA that also sounds like completely normal sleep habits for a 3 month old. It takes a while for them to sleep all the way through the night. Feeding solids before he's ready won't help sleep, might actually make it worse from constipation or other tummy aches.

What are the signs telling you he's ready for pureed food?

Sucking on fingers itself really isn't a sign of being ready to start solids, but I'm just wondering what else you are seeing with him, to make you feel like he is ready?

And, where are you based? Here in UK, we all have a General Practitioner to visit first, rather than specialist Drs for every ailment or family member, but we do all have access to Health Visitors, who can give excellent advice to parents about this precise issue. Do you have anyone like that available where you are?

Either way, as others have said, there is good reason to not feed him solids before 6 months.

He needs to be able to sit upright, and be showing interest in the food other's are eating to be showing you signs he's developmentally ready for food.

Sucking fingers could be for comfort, for sore gums if he's an early teether, lots of things completely unrelated to needing more milk or solids.

Also, do some reading about baby led weaning. It's possible to introduce baby to food without doing puree at all.

No judgement at all on weaning techniques, I did a bit of everything, but find some good resources, and have a read.

I would try increasing the amount of milk each feed. Up it a couple of ounce and see how that goes.

Solids at this age is far worse than maybe offering a dummy ?

He's too little to be on food, maybe speak to ur doctor see what they can advise. The more research that is done the more it's advised to wait til minimum 6months.

I would suggest getting a professional opinion. Or a pedi. Kids need more care than just a gp that is booked solid.

Thank you @twistedkickers for the advice.

@mamabird no i havent actually cause they have no available appointments. We dont have a pedi. Our doctor is our all round for everything from pregnancy, after birth, sickness etc. He is always booked solid for weeks on end.

How do you know they aren't wrong? Have you taken him to his pedi and gotten the go ahead to start solids? Have you taken him to a GI doctor to rule out any intestinal issues?

Hey hun. If your baby is finishing every single bottle it is advised that u up his/her oz in take per bottle...if you make your baby a 6oz bottle instead of a 4oz then you will help to fill up your baby. If always been told if your kid finishes every bottle for 24hrs that's when you up the oz 's they are drinking. Please do not start solids yet. Especially not before 6 months. Good luck.

No i didnt have my mind made up. I just thought id ask, seeing i am new to this but i thought i would give yous more insight along the way and help rule out suggestions that i know arent whats wrong. Sorry for even bothering you ladies

So basically you made this post just so one person would agree with you. Because you already have your mind made up so why even ask? You go girl. We'll see ya back here when baby is screaming and constipated ?

@mamabird we chose not to give our son a dummy and we wont be giving him one at all. Especially not now after almost 15 weeks of not using one. And i fought with my mother over this.

Everyone has said all the things I want to regarding waiting with food.

I will just add again that sucking on hands is not necessarily a sign of food readiness, especially in an almost 3 month old. It’s a developmental / exploratory thing and it can act as a pacifier. It doesn’t mean they are ready to eat.

My 3 month old just made a chewing motion for the first time today, I think she is just learning at this age, definitely not ready for and purees

Pacifiers are harmless, feeding solids before 6 months could potentially be harmful to your baby. You should talk with your doctor and see what he/she recommends. My doctor let me know when Wyatt was ready and gave me the green light.

Babies are born with the need to suck on something. That's why you hear about comfort nursing so often. I would discuss the pacifier with your partner and see if he would be open to trying it. Formula is all he needs until 6 months when you can start some solids but formula should be the very first source of nutrition.

3-4 scoops of formula, so assuming it's 2 oz water per scoop then he's eating 6-8oz at a time? Are you pace feeding? Also, I'd definitely wait till 6 months to start foods mama.

I agree with @robin. Sounds like a stomach issue or silent reflux. He may be eating to soothe his discomfort. That’s an awful lot of formula he’s having. Definitely speak to your doctor.

@mamabird no he doesnt have a dummy. We choose to not give him one as its something me and my partner dislike

Sounds more like a stomach issue other then a hunger one. You definitely don't want to start solids at this young of an age and any doctor worth their salt will say the same. Could he have silent reflux? Giving any type of solid too young can cause serious issue down the line. And a baby that young wouldn't have lost their thrust reflex either yet.

Does he take a pacifier?

My baby started sucking on his hands around then. Not out of hunger, just because he found his hands.

I know its not wind pain as we make sure all wind is up

Sometimes when babies get a tummy ache, they will use their bottle/breast as a comfort mechanism, which can sometimes make the tummy ache worse...it’s like an endless cycle until you figure out what’s causing the problem. I’m not a doctor by any means, that’s just an idea. He’s still young for solid food, and I definitely wouldn’t give it to him until 6 months.

The formula we have been using he has been having since he was 3 weeks old as my milk supply dropped

@EK after a feed he sticks his hands in his mouth and sucks on them

He finishes every bottle i give him. Whenever I cuddle with him and use a soft calming voice to help settling him he will continue crying till he has a bottle. He is very all over the place with sleep. One night he will sleep four to five hours straight other nights his up every hour. I may have to make a drs appointment for him to see whats going on.

10 bottles is alot! Is he finishing them? Are you sure he is hungry and doesnt just want a cuddle or to be resettled? If he is only having a little bit I would think that you should stop offering that many and space it out so he finishes a feed properly. Could the formula your using not agree with him?

What is he doing that makes you think he’s not getting enough to eat?

Also many babies still don't sleep well at 15 weeks. I have my 13 week old in a routine, feeds really well (he's huge 8.5kg) and can even self settle to sleep. Even with all that he doesn't link cycles during the day or sleep more than 3hrs at a time at night. It's just maturity and he will more than likely get there. They just need time. So his sleep is probably an age thing, not food.

I'd take him to the doctor. There might be another reason he's refusing the bottle. Maybe it irritates his tummy or he has silent reflux. He's definitely too young and it's a choke hazard if he can't sit up properly.

Ive been offering him at least 10 bottles a day with 3-4 scoops of formula. And o think due to not getting enough is why he isnt sleeping well. Ive tried putting farex in his bottle to fill him up but it just doesnt seem to be enough

Can you offer another bottle?

I'm in Australia too. Although the bottles say that they still recommend waiting until 6 months. I would wait, at the very least, until 5 months.

@mamabird he is showing all signs expect for the sitting up one. He can sit up for a minute or so unassisted but then falls

Babies tummies are very small. We parents sometimes feel like its not enough but we are used to alot of food but because we are grown already unlike babies. Breastmilk or formula is best until atleast 6 months. Food before that is not neccessary at all.

They have that on the jars in the US as well but the American academy of pediatrics says it's best to wait until 6 months and showing ALL signs of readiness. Being able to hold their head up, being able to sit unassisted, loss of the tongue thrust reflex and idk if I forgot any but those are the signs you should be looking for.

Most of the puree foods in jars have 4mnths+ here in Australia. I dont know about anywhere else.

Its safest to wait till they're 6 months old certainly never as early as 15 wks.

You actually have to wait till after 6 months old. He's definitely not ready.