Waiting to miscarry My doctor told me today to prepare to have a miscarriage because my ultrasound…

It’s perfectly normal to feel the way you do :(. I had a miscarriage 4 years ago and basically deleted or blocked anyone I knew who was pregnant because I couldn’t stand the jealousy:(. I’m sure your friend will want to be there for you when you need her. In retrospect, It wasn’t the right time for me and I went on bc the next few yrs until this year. I am now 6 months pregnant with my baby boy. I was paranoid after the miscarriage but everything came out fine (so far). Many pregnancies continue to be successful after a mc.

I’m very sorry to read this :(

I’m in the same boat. I’m just waiting to miscarry. It’s driving me nuts. I’m sorry girl.

I know exactly how you feel. My step sister and I are due the same exact day July 9th and I spent all morning in the ER bleeding. They saw gestational sac, yolk sac, but no fetal pole or heart beat. They are saying I’m only about 5 weeks (based on measurements) not 7 weeks (I thought based on LMP). I am going to go to urgent care on Friday or Saturday to check my hcg levels again. I see my Dr on Thursday Nov 30th.... that seems like forever away.

I’m in the same boat. From my own calculations and the doctor and I would be 7wk2days and that is also what the baby measured but they couldn’t find a heartbeat today. This would be my 3rd baby and I’ve never had to deal with anything like this. It just doesn’t make sense that the baby measured to the day of what it should be and I’ve not had any bleeding or cramping at all. I go back in a week to check again. We were going to tell our family on Thanksgiving but instead I had to tell my parents this news today.

Don’t lose hope mama! This is why Dr often wait to check heartbeat via ultrasound closer to week 8, sometimes at Week 7 the heartbeat still isn’t visible.

We were going to tell family on thanksgiving too but now we won’t be. I’m going to be crushed if I have to tell them I need a D&C. I’ve been reading up on it and a lot of websites say to wait until the gestational sac measures at least 25mm and mine is just at 20 as of Monday. This is my first pregnancy and it’s been so awful so far. I have what I think is a cyst on my right ovary but the doctor is telling me to rush for D&C because they can’t confirm that it’s not the pregnancy. I have no pain and if it was in fact the pregnancy on my ovary, wouldn’t I have pain or bleeding?

Sara I think you should wait on the D&C. You don’t want to risk the scarring. There is medication they can give instead which is safer. I am in the same position as you I am choosing to let things just happen naturally. They should be able to tell via US if your pregnant in the uterus or tube. It is very common to have ovarian cysts. You are more then welcome to PM me if you need or want to talk more!

I just can’t allow myself to jump into a D&C and only 6 weeks! My doctor acted like it was like I was getting a tooth pulled, like no big deal. You’ll come in, we will take it out and you’ll be on your way the same day ???

Oh my gosh Sara that sounds so insensitive!! I was a gestational surrogate and the first IVF transfer ended in a blighted ovum and my OV gave me Cervidil and it helped to start the miscarriage and it worked very well and was not painful like I thought. D&C she said that early was not medically necessary and she totally advised against it because of the scaring that could occur. I m/c today on my own, I’m thankful I had 2 days of bleeding to help me prepare and process. Seeing it pass was difficult but I found peace knowing I’m on my way to being able to try again. I’m not waiting and wondering if it’s gonna turn out ok. I pray you find the best decision for you and your family and find the peace that I feel.

I’m so sorry your dealing with this too. I can not believe how much this actually happens. I’ve never even heard of it before. I’m now terrified that it’s going to keep happening as this was my first pregnancy. I hope we get our sticky beans soon ????