Cry to soothe
Do you let your baby cry a little to help them learn to soothe themselves to sleep?
Self soothing is a developmental thing and isn't something that is taught. We can, however, "help" them as long as they are developmentally showing signs of self soothing on their own. *Most* babies begin to have the ability to self soothe between 4-6 months, but it can take up to a year. Use your best judgment if your child is ready. With that being said, research has not proven CIO to be safe under the age of 6 months, with most studies focusing on 8-10 month olds.
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My son is starting to show signs of self soothing, but we don't let him cry. We will let him "fuss it out" I guess you could say. We nurse, read books then lay him down awake. Most of the time, he just babbles himself to sleep. Sometimes he will fuss a little and that's when I really notice the self soothing. He'll fuss for a minute or two and then just start babbling. Other times, especially when he is overtired, he will cry when we lay him down. I will wait no longer than a minute to see if he starts to calm or if he gets more unsettled, and then I will shush/pat him in the crib until he settles and walk away. Sometimes, i have to do this several times, but my goal is to not pick him up. If this goes on too long I will pick him up and try to do the pick up/put down method which does eventually work. The latter is when he is over tired and fighting sleep. He sleeps 12 hrs with 1 wake/feed, still on demand EBF.
You think I would have learned from my oldest daughter who is two and refuses to sleep on her own but instead my other daughter cries and I let her sleep with us. I need to stop but like previous posters said it's hard to let your baby cry. But let me tell you. Four people in one bed is uncomfortable.
Hailey I'm sure your baby can learn. It just takes patience. I consulted a baby sleep training expert and she advised me to start the sleep training at night when he has the most drive to sleep. Once he has learned to fall asleep on his own at night you start the nap training. She advised me that you should put him to bed awake and let him cry until he falls asleep. She said in average a baby will cry for 45-60 minutes the first time and that time will drastically reduce over the next week. Luckily my son only cried 19 minutes the first night (I cried the whole time too). We went in the room to comfort him every 8 minutes. We would not pick him up. We just put our hand in his chest and quietly spoke to him. Now he falls asleep quickly with minimal crying. It is soooo hard to let your baby cry like that, but it really did work and I think it is important for him to learn to fall asleep on his own.
I do...Took him few nights and he learned how to go to sleep by himself..I just have the same ritual every night, nurse him, make sure he burped very well, put him down in his crib, me and his daddy telling him good night and we love him and then we turn the light off and we walk away, he doesn't cry anymore, I go check him in about 10 minutes and he's asleep already.he is three months and one week old and is been doing this sice 2.5 months old.. it's so much easier, he usually wakes up only one time a night to eat, I feed him and I put him back down awake and he goes to sleep again ?
I don't let my baby cry unless I'm busy and can't get to him right away. But that's just me, he's not ready to self-soothe. He usually falls asleep after his bottle though and I lay him down and he does fine.