not pregnancy related but feeling very sad and like a failure
not pregnancy related but feeling very sad and like a failure
I feel like I fail my daughter ( the one who lives in Texas with her adoptive mom and dad) she may have heart murmors and it scares me I feel so bad like I should have done something else while pregnant with her or that I did something wrong...im so scared I can't stop crying...i don't know what to do. Her mom jeeps asking me questions I don't have the answers to and it makes me feel horrible.
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Heart murmurs don't happen because you did something during your pregnancy, you can't control them. They're not hereditary but often happen in families (for example, my MIL has a murmur and my fiancé has signs of a murmur but was never diagnosed)
Murmurs are very common and people can live normal, active lives. Hang in there ?
Olivia Rader·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
Her little brother on her biological fathers side died at 6 months because of them and it's scary to think she might too
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As long as they catch it and keep it monitored then she should be okay. But it sounds like it comes from the father's side so it's something you couldn't control
Olivia Rader·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
I know but as her mama I feel like if something happens and she's so far away even tho they are moving back to Kansas closer to me if something happens in the mean time that I made a horrible decision with giving her up even tho I did it for her idk I'm so confused with what I should be doing and how I should handle this. I just want to hold her and tell her in person I love her...i feel like such a horrible mother right now
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My son was born with a heart murmur .later said it was called tetralogy of fallot .
When I was pregnant they never mention he had it.until he was born .
The Dr.said it wasn't my fault.
He had heart surgery at 9months due to not gaining weight.
He's a happy and healthy 2 year old now.
It was so scary and heart breaking as a mom. But believe me when I tell u everything will be OK.
Olivia Rader·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
@thank you paomm that does help I'm trying to tell myself it's gonna be ok she almost 2 years old now so I hope it's not too late