My little lorney loo miss her so much growing up way to fast can't wait to see her in may!!

I apologize if this is too personal and please don't feel obligated to answer. I hope I don't come across as rude, that's not how I mean it at all. May I ask why you gave her up for adoption (or maybe you didn't and i totally misunderstood the situation, if so, I'm super sorry lol)? She's a cutie! ?

Ooooooo my gooodness she is just adorable!!!

Because at the time I couldn't take care of her and because I cheated on my husband and got pregnant with her...i didn't want her to be resented by him and I wanted everyone involved to be as happy as can be even if I was miserable. I miss her like crazy and I wish she was in my arms right now but I know that she is right where she needs to be and she is as happy as can be. And to me my kids happiness is way more important than my own. And don't worry about asking me about it it's not too personal. I hope that when other mothers who see there baby is suffering because of there mistakes that they will make the right decisions about making sure that thier baby is as happy as can be. Weather that is getting away from the bad situation , adoption, or changing their ways all together I happened to do all three. I truly was trying to do best for all my babies. My son went through too much as a baby because I was young and dumb when I had him. I'm still growing up and I learn knew ways of making him smile everyday. And now with the new baby on the way I know what to do and what not to do. Long story short my kids are my life and even tho I'm probably not done making bad decisions because I'm only 22. My kids will all ways be smiling and taken care of because they truly are most important. Every action has a conciquence. Mine was giving her up so that she could live a normal stress free life. That's why I have her up and I hope you see that adoption is not a bad thing some times it's the best thing because when it comes to your kids they are the only thing that matters. ☺

Thank you for sharing your story! I definitely think adoption is a great thing and everyone has to make the decision that is best for the baby and themselves, which is what you did. I totally respect that! Looks like you have an open adoption and still get to visit with her and see her from time to time... that is wonderful and I'm sure it helps! She looks like a very happy little girl! ? ?

I do I get to see her about 6-10 times a year sometimes less her adoptive parents moved to Texas because she has asthma and bad allergies here in Kansas and her adoptive dad had a great amazing job offer there. Plus she's the youngest there of 5 kids they had 4 kids before adopting her. And they are also family friends my mom's best friends actually. They are wonderful people!! And yes she is she has everything and more!! Plus all of her hammy downs go to her new baby sister once she has grown out of them. So they will all ways be close too. And her big brother my son sends her books and toys all the time. The only down fall is that I named her Lauryne Della Rynnaye T. And they renamed her Claire Lauryne B. So they changed her name which I was so sad about for a long time but I totally get it her adoptive mom wanted to give her something from her since she's not her biological daughter so she gave her Claire and I gave her Lauryne. So we truly share this beautiful little girl I created and love her equally this experience has brought me years joy sadness and what it truly means to love someone I only knew for 3 months. Thank you for saying I did a great thing.

She is so cute! I love the way that you talk about her.

She's my first daughter and looks so much like me. My son looks like me to its so wonderful how much inspiration and love you can have for your babies. For instance my daughter doesn't at the moment know I'm her mom. But one day when she is older she will know me. It does I will admit all most literally kill me when I try to hold her and she screams for her adoptive mom and wont let me hold her. But the knowledge of knowing one day she will know and love me as her mother keeps me going though all the emotions. Life is hard but knowing all my babies are happy and healthy helps me get through every day and every obstical I endure. They truly are the joy in my life.

I just want to let you know that I am truly inspired by your decision. I could never imagine how difficult it was for you to hold her for nine months and give her to another family. That's the most selfless thing a mother could do for their child. It's fantastic that you can be a part of her life and she'll thank you for sticking around. She's beautiful!

Thank you so much @megan your words truly mean alot.

Something similar happened to me. I was married to my first husband and I cheated. I was about 22 at the time. I got pregnant and I decided to give the baby up for adoption as well. I ended up losing the baby at 12 weeks. I was very sad at what happened and it took me a long time to get over it. However I believe things happen for a reason. I think your very strong minded and I think very similar to you. Anything for my kids happiness even if it means I'm miserable.

I'm so sorry that happened to you mama. I wouldn't know what to feel. We are all very strong women tho.Because we're mothers We all have this sense of forgiveness that not many people have. And we forgive ourselves to an extent. I know that I will all ways regret cheating and bringing a baby to this world with no one but me at the time to love her. But I will never regret getting pregnant with her. Our kids weather they are with us, have passed away, been adopted, or we adopted them, will all ways weather blood or not be the biggest joy of our lives. It's so funny how much they teach us when we're supposed to be the ones teaching them. Kids truly are a blessing from God. I know that with out my kids I probably wouldn't be on this earth right now. They have absolutely saved my life numerous times. I owe them mine. Thank you ladies so much for your wonderful comments and allowing me to tell you my story!! Hugs to all the mamas out thier struggling not knowing what to do. There's all ways an option