I was at one point and I had to get my oldest on the baby’s schedule when it came to nap time. So I could get peace of mind. And when she was woke I would let her help me with everything that had to do with her brother. She got diapers wipes bottles out the fridge. And anything else I could think of. It’s hard at first but eventually my daughter got on board with the idea of being mommy’s little helper. I also found ways to keep her busy but quiet when brother was sleeping.