This would make me angry to no end!!

My eldest is in school and gets sick at least once a month ( more or less) with something...

but his father always told me ahead of time that he was sick because he knows we have a baby here at home.

Plus he knows my wrath

I would be mad. I’m lucky in that department in that we all communicate good about sicknesses. We even switch days to make sure neither of our kids including sd don’t get sick. Sometimes unavoidable but we try luckily.

Hex ALWAYS sends SD over here sick too. Without telling us beforehand.

Totally normal, and from what everyone else has told me, I shouldn't be upset about it because kids being sick is just a part of life. That's just what OTHER STEPPARENTS tell me. Very annoying, not at all helpful.

I, too, would just like some forewarning. But that's WAY too much to ask for from BM, and according to other stepparents on here and on other forums, I shouldn't even be asking for that.

We ALL got the STOMACH FLU at CHRISTMAS last year because HEX sent SD over with the stomach flu WITHOUT telling us she had the stomach flu. According to other stepparents, I should NOT have been upset. Apparently, kids get sick and parents should both get time to enjoy being sick from them.

Now, I just leave. I go to my parents' house with my 3yo DD when SD comes over sick with no forewarning. I'm just done with her coming over sick and Hex not telling DH, (I have no contact with Hex at all) and then DH getting sick from SD, then DD getting sick from SD, and then me getting sick from SD. I'm just done with it. So I leave when she comes over sick and Hex hasn't told us before. Because 90% of SD's time here is spent playing with DD...and sharing germs with her. When we KNOW that SD is sick when she comes over, we can plan around that. But I just am SO done with getting lice and stomach flu and Strep Throat and SICK from SD.

I'm sure people will say that's horrible and I should stay and get myself and our 3yo sick every time SD comes over sick, but to me, it is TORTURE when DD gets sick. That's who I'm really concerned about. My daughter. The one that's mine, that I am NOT told "Not your kid, not your problem" about, like they say about SD. SD has 2 parents. They both tell me, "not your kid, not your problem." I take that to heart.

Anyways, *I* think that's just a b**** y thing to do-to not bother telling people that your kid is sick and send them over with no forewarning.

Of course, I'm sure the other stepparents here will disagree and say that that's life.

When I had my baby suddenly every time DS can back he was starting to get sick. It’s winter and he was in the pool all night or some stupid stuff. I get your mad but I can see her response go like the one I get from ex “oh I had no idea he was sick” or “well if you can’t handle having both kids let me have DS” ?

I understand why you’re pissed, I would be too. That’s just unacceptable and she shouldn’t be allowed to do it.

Glitch..

OMFG I'm so f***ing pissed right now I actually texted hex!

She always b****es in court that we don't communicate with her when really she refuses to communicate with us!! She says she didn't know she was doing xyz so our lawyer, mediator and judge said to communicate with her every single time. Okay done!

We've been letting SS8 kiss and hug all over DS17 months. He even kissed him on the mouth (which we don't like)! SS said they had a "cold" over there. Ok. He wakes up this morning and is having diarrhea and throwing up everywhere! Then he goes oh yeah they're all passing around being sick over there.

ONFG!!! This b**** did this on f***ing purpose! And yes she does do s*** like this on purpose just to be a f***ing a**hole!!!!!

So I sent this in our group text, "Hi Hex. In the future we would appreciate it if you communicated that y'all have been sick at your house. SS came home and we let him hug and kiss DS and now SS is having diarrhea and throwing up everywhere. SS said that all of you were sick and passing it on to each other all week. We would not have allowed him that close to his baby brother if we'd known y'all have been sick all week. We always communicate with you when SS is sick and we'd appreciate the same. Have a nice day." Then "close*" so she doesn't b**** about my grammar or something.

I just can't believe this. This is not the first time people!! Ugh!!!