Overwhelmed 'Im always overwhelmed and stressed and I feel like I'm downing in blended drama. I'm always extremely…

I feel the same most days too. Is hex involved at all with your steps? The full time stepmom life is so hard. I feel like it would be easier if she wasn't in the picture at all like she was in the beginning. She decided to pop back in 2 years ago and it has sucked ever since. They go have their play time with her and get spoiled as I'm at home doing their laundry, cooking, cleaning...all the stuff a good parent should do and they come talking about how much fun she is ? it makes me so resentful because this is time I could be giving dd1. I've taken a step back lately and enrolled in school starting in October so I'm hoping it gets better.

This is how I feel too and I'm the biomom ?last night I was crying thinking I adore my son but all this stress dealing with both ex and SM it's taking a toll.

Whenever I hear your guys stories I think wow how do they do it. I could never imagine caring for someone else's child and getting criticized for everything that I do.

I just can't do this anymore but I feel like if I leave then I'll ruin DS life. It's not that I don't love Dh I just no longer believe that "love conquers all." I just don't think that love is enough to get us through all of this anymore.

Leaving won't make it better though. Now you'll just have to deal with dh from the perspective of hex.... and thenkids will always be involved.

Maybe just get more me time and tell dh he needs to handle all things blended. You onlybdeal with the kids when they are present and only as a team

We've been fine all summer but since last week when SS came back things have been really hard. And he's never home he's always at the police academy and I'm a SAHM so I have to deal with everything . I just don't wanna be a full time SM anymore but there's nothing I can do about it except vent to you guys.

I'm sorry. I'm sure once he's through academy and you get back into the swing of things it will get better

I'm not fulltime except in the summer and it always takes me a bit to get back into routine with SS. And I always have a pit in my stomach about hex. So hugs and ? and laughter. I think all people go through peeks and valleys. So send the kids to bed early tonight and watch your fav guilty pleasure ?

Did you agree for SS to live with you? Was it court ordered or something? Can't Hex get SS?

Can't DH get babysitting for SS?

I've been told SO MANY TIMES that DSD "is not my kid and butt out of it" that I have! When she comes over, I don't try to take extra time to bake or cook with her or play cards or anything with her. I just leave everything to DH and Hex. We only get SD when DH is here, though. But he still spends most of his time watching TV even when she's here. And SD now just spends most of her time in her room with the door closed.

They keep telling me that she's not my kid and not my problem, well now I tell them-"She's not my kid, not my problem."

Their words, not mine. I don't get her on my own anymore or ask for her to come over or anything like I used to. I used to encourage DH to get her every week and that I would take her back to Hex's the next day while he was at work etc. No more.

They forced the glorified babysitter role onto me at one point but I started making plans to be away during the weekends when I was supposed to get SD and her older brother. Then they couldn't come over because DH wasn't even there when I had them during the weekends.

So much easier now!!! I just take care of our daughter that we had together and I don't worry about SD or Hex or anything.

We have SS full time.

We have SS full time.