Where do you exchange the kids at?

I have seen people do exchanges at your local police station. I also have a friend who does exchanges through a kids first program, not sure if you area would have one but it's a place where you or your SO would drop of the kids at this center and 15 minutes after you stop them off hex would have to pick them up, then hex would drop them off there and you guys would pick them up.

A gas station, but there really isn't much conflict in our blend. Never really had much drama except minor disagreements. If so I would suggest the police station like pp suggested

We do at a gas station. If there was a police station close by though that is where I would do it. In the parking lot there. They have cameras and if things go bad they can intervene

Police station or like a public place, park big store (target or Walmart) school or daycare if possible.

We use to do it at a court ordered change over centre where there were certified social workers and all. They become so fearful of hex's outburst & tantrums that they decided that they were "fearful for their safety due to hex & must discontinue our use of their services". Which sucked!! So now we do it at the police station in the foyer otherwise she drops them at school and we pick them up after school.

She drops them off at the end of our driveway but we live In the woods with a gated driveway. We return them at her church on Sunday. We use to do Walmart but she was always late

We meet halfway at a gas station

For the break in? No it was years ago and there wasn't anything that we could do because Mil never took her off of the lease for the home that we were all renting during that time.

It was a duplex type home with a shared kitchen and laundry room so we all had our own private entrances and living quarters and such. Unfortunately since it was technically legally one address even though Hex broke in and destroyed our entire home she couldn't get into trouble for breaking the law because she was still on the lease.

And thank you ladies for all of your advice. These are all wonderful ideas and I'll talk with Dh ?

We had "police station closest to the receiving parent" so we would have had to drop them off at her towns station for her time and she would have had to drop them at our towns station. But she never got her visits. We put police station parking lot because her and her gf became physical in the past.