please read!!! I'm at a loss right now. I'm sure this won't make sense but I'll do my best. So my df…
please read!!!
I'm at a loss right now. I'm sure this won't make sense but I'll do my best. So my df told me our dd was his first. But today I get a message from his "daughter". She says he never cared for her and she is mad at him for taking care of Alisa bc he was never there for her.. now he also told me she wasn't his biological dd. But she tells me that he bailed out on her when she mentioned the test via child support...(I thought bc its for child support they're is no way to bail out) Then she tells me about a son!!! So I ask him he swears up and down left and right he took a DNA test and it said he was not her dad. The boy he failed to mention he says oh yeaa his mom says he that but I don't believe he's mine. He older now and looks nothing like him... Apparently he wasnt with his mom when she got pregnant and wasn't with her mom when she got pregnant... I'm at a loss and more so why is his "daughter" saying this to me now?? I hope she isn't mad bc I'm with her "dad". I mean it just came up outta the blue and what gets me is he is so good with Alisa, why would he just up and leave if she WAS biologically his? Help me out here ladies... I believe him but I just want some theories as to where this is coming from?? I feel so sad for her and her not having a dad to care for her.. but I also don't believe she should be mad at my df bc it wasnt his fault.
deleted-user·
You should make him take a DNA test for her to prove to YOU and his "daughter" just to be on the safe side.
deleted-user·
Call me slow... But i did not follow anything lol
deleted-user·
Agree with pp, DNA test. Also she is likely saying this now because her mother said your SO is her dad. I'm sure she believes her mother is being honest, wether she is or not though is debatable. If he has never done the DNA for the possible son he needs to do that too. Looks don't mean much.
Some men will abandon children and then go raise children with another woman. They have a warped view that their feelings for the mother dictate their relationship with the children. Hopefully that's not the case here, but the only thing that will give you piece of mind now is DNA
Chantilly Lace·
I know its all a mess. She knows.. she was the one who requested it. But only bc someone else told her he's not your dad she went and filed for the DNA test. So he got papers saying he had to take it. Court ordered type thing bc it was for her mom to get back pay on child support. So he says he took it and he wasnt her dad.. but she says its a lie that she told him and he said no and supposedly "spazed" out on her. I have never seen this man "spaze" out on anyone!
I'm confused as well. I mean I'm barley hearing this today! We've been together for 2 years! I find it weird she's saying this now..
deleted-user·
Before you take sides you have to see this information for yourself. Ask to see the proof that he isn't the father.
deleted-user·
That's bull s*** if he did take the court ordered DNA test and it said it was his child then he would be paying child support and you would know it. The "daughter" probably just believes what her mother says and wants money from him or something. Some females will say anything to get money from a man. If it gives you peace of mine have him get a DNA test to set it straight on all sides.
deleted-user·
Thats crazy. Before my dh and I got married they were trying to get him on cs because I was getting medicaid for my dd. And they wanted testing and all of that. They sent letters and everything until we got married and I sent them a copy of our marriage license. If that was his child and he had to test you would know because he would be paying cs. I dont know thos whole thing sounds fishy to me. And he needs to stop acting like an ass and take one for the son.
deleted-user·
If it was a court ordered DNA test, it should be in a file at the courthouse. They don't just throw those things away.
I think the mom is lying because if the child was his, his wages would be getting garnished for child support.
Chantilly Lace·
That's what I thought! He told me she is just trying to start drama. My df is much older then I am. The son he said in his 30s and is refusing it. He don't care who his biological dad is bc someone else raised him. I tried to edit that into the op and it would not do it. She is constantly messaging me saying how much he's a crappy dad and all this other crap. She said she wasn't even happy for him having a baby. That's where I stopped talking with her. If he is her dad that's her sister and she don't care. That tells me she trying to stir the pot with nothing in it.