So any suggestions for when I give birth? And I have to look at my child’s father and he’ll be the…

I went through the same thing... at 38 weeks pregnant I found out my BF has been cheating and lying behind my back the whole pregnancy and I didn’t want him i the OR with me, his face, his voice disgusted me. I get what you’re saying. It’s so hard and I’m sorry mama

It has to be one of the worst feelings right now. Today was the last straw with him. How do you receive naked pictures and tell another girl that you love her all while I’m thinking we are just peachy and I’ve taken him back so many times I even dropped restraining orders because he manipulates me so much to thinking we are this happy family ... I’ve always judged other people who couldn’t get out of relationships where the partner sucks but now I’m in one and it is SO HARD . I seriously don’t think he deserves to be there but then I feel so guilty like I’m just in the wrong 😩

@bbhausfeld77, girl I been through all that and I’m so sorry 😭

@bbhausfeld77 don't feel bad or like you did anything wrong. It's just his manipulative lies that are stuck in your head that's making you believe you did something when it's all on him and his nasty selfish behavior. You need time to yourself to hear your heart and mind and decide if you want him in the room. If not the hospital nurses will glad keep him in the waiting room or not allow him to see you at all. Their job is to help and protect the mothers wishes. I'll be praying for you. I do understand and am dealing with a controlling and manipulating spouse myself. He hasn't cheated that I'm aware of but the anger and rage and painting everything to be my fault is what I'm working through.

@august.rae, it sucks 😭 thanks for listening to me rant

No if you rather be alone to have a good birth experience then I say go for it... Maybe come afterwards when you have him or the next day

@chelleyb93, that’s the same here on top of cheating . I’ve made so many excuses for him I’m just truly at my breaking point and I’m due in 24 days. I am so excited for my son to be born seriously so excited I just don’t understand why he at least won’t let me be and not show up and try to control everything !! I hope your situation gets better too!!!!

@laquandashanea68, that’s a good idea too. I didn’t even think about him coming after

@bbhausfeld77 No. You aren't. I hope you feel at ease with your decision, I can't imagine mama. ❣️

@bbhausfeld77, it u need to message me I’m here

@bbhausfeld77 he definitely doesn't need to be there you need to focus on you and your son being born than stressing even more with him around or worrying what he's doing. I do agree with him coming the next day after you've gotten settled.

@chelleyb93, he’ll probably lose his mind if I tell him he isn’t welcomed during 😑

He won’t understand where I’m coming from not even a little bit

I’ve gone thru this recently if u wanna message me u can

@bbhausfeld77 you can't be wrapped up in his emotions. I know it's hard but that's his problem of he's upset you told him he's not welcomed to come. If he does show up. If you tell the nurses at the hospital they won't let him in.

No your not selfish.

@chelleyb93, ahh thank you!! I hope

I stick with it because I seriously doubt I can handle even looking at him

@bbhausfeld77 you can do it. Strength is in you. You just need to dig deep and stand firm on it. I've just had to do it myself.

I Agree with everyone on here.... I'm in a similar place and I'm having a scheduled c section honestly I feel terrible not wanting him there I feel he will take from my birthing experience from a pregnancy I managed on my own. I've thought of just calling him once the baby is born. I share the same feeling of wanting someone who cares about both me and the baby and will look out for BOTH of our well being. I figured I would just tell him it was an emergency c section? 🤷🏼‍♀️ and remember ur focus should be on a safe delivery for both u and baby and no one (baby daddy or not) should take that away from u *hugs* 😘

@a.lares, trust me girl... I let my BD come into the OR wth me and now I wish I never let him.. he ruined my whole experience it was HELL!

I totally missed this post and I know I’m super late! But hey if you don’t want him there, just don’t have him. When he asks why not and try’s to act all offended by your decision you let him know the reasons why. What you saw and how it made you feel as a woman. He can wait outside and come see his baby once he’s born. Does he feel like you took the birthing experience away from him? Well that’s what he gets for doing those things to you, unfortunately for him, it’s your experience too and in this case without you there’s no baby. So you are the most important person in this scenario and whatever he feels like he wants or needs goes wayyyy down on the list. It’s all about you and your baby in that moment of delivery and you need to be at peace, comfortable not feeling all those emotions against him. You are not selfish, he’s the one that’s selfish putting you through this pregnant and he’d be shameless if he acted out because of your decision.