Can't help but feel concerned

I remember your first post about concerns with her. And I think your feelings are warranted. Does she have family or other friends that demonstrate the same concern for her?

I haven't spoken to her family about any of it. I'll go by her aunts this weekend to see her sisters new baby and mention things about her going and see if anyone brings their concerns up.

I just come from a place with love. I don't want anything happening to her or her son and this baby especially with being in another country with this guy. Her moving away will make me bawl my eyes out when she leaves.

That's exactly what I'm going to do.

I had asked her about that and all she said was that she would have to buy her own plane tickets. ?

I remember that post, what ended up happening??

He definitely sounds super controlling. Next time you talk to her on the phone I'd say something. Make sure you know she is alone / not near him though. I'd just be like hey, I know I don't see you guys, but just from what I've heard from you he seems a little (nice word for controlling?). I was just making sure everything is really ok, if you need any help let me know. I'm glad he is so great with mikey!!

Is the first kids dad in his life? If so, she can’t just move to Germany because he can contest to that. I think instead of thinking about this man, she need to put her kids first. She barely know him and already have her kid around and moved in. I think you should have a heart to heart with her and bring up your concerns with her family. ☹️

He ended up taking her to a dinner and movie. If I remember correctly.

And that's another thing. She hates talking to me with him around. I really only speak with her if she's away from him. When she gets home it's "Curtis is home and I'm about to walk in the house. Call you later" type thing. Which I think is strange and another flag. I'm expressed my feelings with her and the naming the baby thing because I think his way is bull s*** . It's her baby too. And she wants it to be a girl just so they won't argue about it but she said "I have no say in the name if it's a boy".

I'll let her know some more how I'm always here for her but hopefully what I say about my concerns don't scare her off with coming to me about things.

No he's not. She has full custody of him and he's always in and out of jail and usually sprung out on drugs. The only relationship the father and her son have is through a phone call. That was before she moved to Florida also.

I remember that post. I would feel worried if I had a friend in that situation. He just sounds "off" from the things you've mentioned. Like, with the tv thing, that seems like he believes she doesn't deserve basic respect or privileges because he pays the bills. Rude is rude no matter who pays the bills.

I think sometimes friends can have a more clear view of a relationship than the people in the relationship. I had a dear friend in college, my roommate, who was in an awful relationship. She would find things out, get terribly upset, and somehow he'd talk his way out of everything. It was a mess! They planned a wedding, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I told her that I couldn't stand up for that marriage; I hated to hurt her, but I couldn't watch them get married. They were divorced about two years after that. She didn't tell me everything, but it got much worse after they were married, and much worse than I ever expected. She and I are still friends today.

Bottom line: Always be honest with your friends, even if the truth hurts, it's still the best policy.

lol that's what I did when she was planning a wedding with her sons dad. She asked to be her maid of honor and I told her I wouldn't because I knew he didn't love her. They never got married.

If she unknowingly was in the woods and was concerned enough to say call the police if you don't hear back... my bet is she is going to blindly follow him to another country. I seriously see some huge red waving flags and I'm not even her friend. I hope she comes to her senses.

She can't just "go to Germany" with him. They would need to be married in order to get housing I believe. She's also going to need permission from her other kids dad to leave the country if he's involved. I remember when you posted that and we were all so worried. Does she have any family that you can talk to and maybe with strength in numbers you guys can talk her out of it? Offer her so much support and let her know you'll be there to help her with her newborn. That's very scary especially in another country where laws aren't as strict and she doesn't know anyone. I hope she comes to her senses!

I'm pretty close with her mom and her aunts but she and her mom butt heads a lot so her mom would be the last person she'd try to listen to.

Her bday is in January so I'm hoping that he doesn't propose because she will say yes. The entire situation is really annoying with him and her just allowing it. She was single for so long that I think she think this is what she needs.

When I told her my concerns especially with her son she said she asked him (son) for permission and this is what she signed up for by being with Curtis such as moving situations. But they're not married so she didn't sign up for anything.

What about the sons dad? Is he involved at all? Usually you need permission to move states and I think it would be a lot more difficult to move countries.

No he's not involved at all. She has full custody and for the past 2 years it's only been phone conversations with him and his dad.