Monster in laws I have the sweetest MIL but I want to here some stories about your monster in…

She's not really a monster yet but I am starting to see it rearing its ugly head. I made a Facebook post the other day asking for opinions on blw vs. purees. Not 2 minutes later my phone rings and it's her asking me why I would want to blw and what is it and here is what she did and why it's best. I just wanted off that phone asap.

Ehh I just have a nosy mil to be. Needing to hear our finances and what we spend. Just nosy. Doesn't take part in the grand kids lives but has enough nerve to say we didn't need to have a third. Unexpected surprises happen it is life. Just don't be there like you aren't for the others and your life Won't change ??

Omg my mil is truly amazing she's an awesome mom mom and we are so close. Love her so much!! She's like my 3rd mom lol. I have my mom and my step mom then her

I went to Wichita today to go to shopping with a friend. I was FaceTiming my SIL when I got home, showing her what I bought, when MIL comes into the screen and says "what'd you buy me?" I said jokingly "nothing lol!" And she said "well you're the worst daughter ever. " lol she was sorta joking but sometimes I think she's not. ??‍♀️

She has said some pretty f***ed up things to me in the past but I won't share those. Sometimes she makes snide comments and then plays it off like she was joking. ?

@squatch, my mil is very sweet but nosy. She's pretty involved in all her grandkids lives. She gets annoying with asking dh about our personal life. She's gone as far as asking how our sex life is, if I shave or have a hairy vagina and how many times a day we have sex. ??‍♀️?

Here for the stories. ? mine are actually pretty good.

Get to telling them @nxm ??

Haha no, I mean my in laws are pretty decent ? otherwise I'd totally spill the beans.

??‍♀️ blonde moment! ? excuse me while I go cry in shame ???

Not my mil because we're not married BUT

When I found out I was pregnant, she emailed me information about adoption. I found out 2 weeks before I turned 25. My so and I were living together. He has a super good job. I finished school while working full time. We were SO happy when we told them and then she sent me that.

When my mom was planning my baby shower, she asked what day. I said between the 7th-9th.. She planned a trip for all of them to go to SoCal. I was so pissed, we didn't even have a shower.

My mom and SO's mom both came to our gender scan. We told them both not to say anything to anyone because we wanted to do a gender reveal. That night, every one on their side knew it was a boy.

She's awful and is one of the reasons I won't marry my SO. She's always gossiping like a freaking teenager. She's always up my SO's ass and I just can't be apart of that. It sucks but he needs to let her know what's up before I even think about marriage. (Which also pisses her off because she's "Christian")

My mil invited a bunch of people to the wedding shower my aunt (not her sister) was throwing without asking anyone. When she was called out on it, she flipped out and started screaming and shouting and told my mom to "shove it up her ass". The next day, she tried pretending that she didn't do anything and was going to throw me a shower for her side of the family. She pouted when I told her I would not attend until she apologized to my mom. Unfortunately, she apologizes, so I have to be miserable on the 24th with my fiance's less-than-stellar family. I'm dragging my MOH with me.

When we announced our son to her, her first comment was "what about school?" (I was in university) the next question was "were you using protection? Both of you?" She didn't say congratulations until we were walking out the door. I literally cried all night because of her s*** ty reaction.

She makes frequent jabs at me not being Christian. She has made more than a few comments about my weight, my job, and my family. She told my fiancé that she "loves him and Logan, but just tolerates (me)". She has intentionally excluded me from family photos/events, but invites my fiancé and son.

@tasha and @mama, I'm so sorry! That's really terrible and really s*** ty!

@OP... what?! Why on earth would she want to know that stuff?!

Pp, that's what I was thinking too! ??‍♀️ I have no idea how you even ask those questions to your grown married son lol.

Mil is really nice & sweet but since I've been pregnant, she gets on my last nerves!!! One thing that upsets me, is her other son is a marine. He just got out of basic training, and he was gone for 13 weeks. While he was gone, she had the balls to tell me she knew how my mother felt... After losing a child to a horrible death. (My brother died 3 years ago). Which is not even comparable!!!!!!! ? She really gets on my nerves about everything. I've told her I didnt want advice on certain things but she still gives it. ?? I love her but she is just a pain

Mine and I have had our ups and downs but did so great through my pregnancy, not even a week after I just had bg. I am going nuts, My So and I plus kids are staying with her till our house is done being remodeled and everytime I say something to So, she has to stick up for him or make excuses for him, and anytime I say something to my kids she has to say what she thinks or what I should do I feel criticized for everything when it comes to the kids. Or For instance she will take out the trash and when So tries she says no he worked today, or after dinner tonight my daughter was wanting him to open something for her and he says go ask your mom. I said why can't you do it, mil chimes in with " he is eating his icecream" like ok so when I am doing something the kids better ask someone else. Ha yeah right I do it all, I wish I could say something without her little jabs, his responsibility does not end once he gets home or gets off work, I barely quit working and before I did it all. I guess I am just overwhelmed and ready to be in our own place

Well i am 25 and i meet my mother in law when i was 16 i have been with my so for 10 years and got married 4 years ago before i got married everythg was great when i got married everythg change she wanted to make me her way (that was not gana happen) so our first fight was when i was pregnant with my first daughter i was 6 mouth pregnant my husband was drinking all day with his dad and they where drunk so my father in law comes and asks me for permission to go with his brother house but he wanted to take my husband 1 in the morning with him (i dont think soo) i told his father stright up no if my husband leaves i was gana leave to my mom house cuz i was pregnant and i wasnt gana stay home alone he got madd he said he was never gana ask me to take him no where i said okay the problem with his dad he is the typical mexican that want to have women inside the house i was not raised like that thank god my dad is equal ;) and that night was a big argue but i dont care his family has to understand he is married and he needs to grow up and he just never has enough time with his family and thats cuz we live next door i gratefull they gave us the oppertunity to sell us a house and yes we are neighbors lol. So my mother in law would always bring me down bcuz at the beginning i didnt now how to cook and she would always try to be mean so i past 1 year of all her b**** y attitude towards me untill i had to come clear with her and girls let me tell you it worked now if she says somethg she shouldnt i won't stay quiet not even my mother tells me what to do and only my mother can say somethg to me and my dad ofcourse no one else.so we moved to austin and she came to live with us for a mouth bcuz my brother in law came to work over here cool we had a good time but like always my husband drunk like to act up on me he know i wont be playing game if i decide too leave his ass i already told him he better not me calling or begging me for him to stay with his family so we went and visit my mother in law and she was mad bcuz i went to see my family first when she just left and was leaving with us for 1 mouth and she complained and again she told me what i should do to leave my husband with them and for me to leave with my family this was my response :) really you just came back home you where with ur son for a mouth and u complain cuz he sees my family first i told her look he is married and just like he married me now he has another family he has to go see. well if not whats the purpose of me being married i told her i didnt get married to sleeep in two diffrents house bcuz yall never have enough seeing him she did not say a word and trust me when someone get to my nerves i wont say it nicely and quietly with a happy face i am looking her stright in her eyes with fire coming out of my face and she nows when i pist ;) so yeah lets see how long my marrige lasts cuz of his family.and my mother has never got into our relationship she just supports me qith what ever decision i make and my dad too my dad tell me i dont need to be standing someone and stay quiet and dont get me wrong i am nice person i have manners i am polite butt if you pick on me and trying to change me and make me the Mexican wife back in the old days the real me comes out lol and i defend myself and if dont matter who it is. So girls speak up cuz if not the problem will always be their and if you put a stop like i did they well now how you are and next time they will think it twice before saying a comment towards you and guess what now his family respect me and nows i dont play games.

Mine isn't so much of a monster in law, more like a crazy in law. I've seen her boobs and ? more times than I'd like to admit. She has a drinking/pill problem ??‍♀️

I heard a joke yesterday, it's probably really old do forgive me if you've heard it but it made me laugh lol

What's the difference between in laws and outlaws?

Outlaws are wanted

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My mil has BPD. She is impossible. She told my mom dh is dangerous and violent. (He's not in anyway) she's told me we abuse our kids because he yelled at mil for banging on the window and screaming at him to move when he opened the door to OUR home. She told dh to delete her texts to him talking s*** about me. Why? Because he told her not to talk about me like that and that he shows me what she says. She then proceeded to blow up my phone accusing me of invading dhs privacy. Lol. She told sil we are bad parents and I'm a horrible mother. She twists my words. She gossips all the time about me. When I met her church friends they all made nasty comments about me to mil in front of me. God knows what she's said to them. She told dh I'm keeping him from Jesus ? I'm pagan. Dh isn't pagan but he does believe some of what I believe. He doesn't agree with Christianity. I have made it clear to him he can practice whatever religion he wants. She showed up with a brand new computer for us one morning. I was very grateful. The next week sil calls me to tell me mil told bil how selfless she was because she was kind enough to spend that money on us. She guilted dh saying "I went into debt to visit y'all" in what? How is that our fault? You came to us. We didn't ask you to. Also I struggled to bf with my first but my milk never came in. I tried for 2 weeks. I decided to ff. This woman called me everyday to guilt me that I was "poisoning" my baby. I cried constantly because I felt like a failure.

1. My DH was leaving for the military he HATES attention so his family wanted to have a going away BBQ he said fine a small get together with the FAMILY not a problem. His mom had a giant party and invited all her friends it ended up being like 200 people at the park with a dj and DH hated it left early and came to my house instead of her after party. I had the stomach flu so I didn't go and apparently that made me unsupportive.

2. When my husband was in boot camp he had TWO phone calls one to know he was there and get his mailing address and one for a holiday he called me his wife both times and she was FURIOUS posted on Facebook how a child should never forget about his mother. Yet she never wrote to him the whole time he was gone ??‍♀️

3. The most recent, DH phone is broken it won't charge she called him and it went to voicemail that means that I blocked her number apparently and she told the whole family that.

4. DH is in the military in a different state if I went into labor and he wasn't around we both talked about how I wouldn't tell anyone (besides my mom) so he would meet his son first she got mad and said it was unfair to her and how she had to be in the labor room.

5.she tells anyone who listens I'm a b**** manipulative and controlling. Literally anyone who listens she's a 50 year old that goes to bars every night and dresses like a 21 year old and tells people in the bar this. Our town is not that big these people are MY HIGH SCHOOL FRIENDS that tell me but she denies it.

My mil is crazy and lucky my DH has realized her crazy and he decided he doesn't want her around which I said "not a problem honey ?"

I swear if you look my MIL in the eyes you'll turn to stone. Have you got a week? That's how long it'll take me to tell you about her. Thankful we just bought a house 4 hours away from her.

I lived with my in-laws while my husband was overseas while he was away I had ds1(got pregnant before he left). I was breastfeeding and he would spit up quite a lot and she would tell me I needed to stop breastfeeding him because it was making him sick. Then she was trying to push me to giving him rice cereal, he was only 2 months I kept telling her no. So I let her go into the appointments with me so maybe she would shut up and see he was gaining weight. Nope. She told the doctor that DS was spitting up a lot and I wouldn't give him cereal like she suggested (trying to shame me) and the doctor agreed with me and said no it's way too early for that. I blew up on her and she told FIL and I got told to get off my period.

Eta: I found out he was spitting up so much because of my love for dairy.

Also ds1 and I lived with them for about a year and a half and my husband would send money for us and would send some for his parents to help pay rent his parents stole over $6,000 because they were taking the money that was supposed to be for ds1 and I.

My mil 'means well' but is just bat s*** crazy!!! Highly strung, control freak up in everybody's business. She's so stressful to be in the same room as, she's a loud drama queen and has to butt into every conversation and talk over the top of you. She's opinionated on everything and is so offensive without a filter.

She's unlike anyone you've ever met.

She's a stay at home mum and has been for 32 years, has 4 boys 24-32yo and still buys them all undies and pjs... yes including my husband, who she calls 'my baby boy'... he's 32!

I'm about to have their first grandchild and shat is about to get a thousand times worse. And it's a boy, so she's going to be the expert ?

I'm so so so stressed out about her with our baby, she doesn't know when to take no for an answer or respect boundaries, so I'm all prepared to go hormonal mumma bear crazy at her if she crosses any lines.

My MIL used to be the monster in law. She was horrid. Would make comments on how me and dh didn't need to be getting married. Ignored my dd. Put my sd above everyone, even her other biograndchild my ds. Would cause me and my dh baby momma to fight. Would talk crap blah blah blah. The list went on. We got into one night it stopped for a bit. Then a week before my wedding dh forced me to go with her for a hair appointment, we ended up having a heart to heart and buffing a lot of it out. Because a lot of the tension was from an outside source. And it's been better ?

When I was married

My drunk MIL left me a voicemail in the middle of the day. She slurred that I needed to "get over myself and be a part of her family, too."

This; from the batch who had left my (ex) husband in foster care and never went back for him, but went back for his sister. I threw my phone at the wall and never called her back. I never actually spoke to her on the phone, and only met her 3/4 times in our 14 year relationship.

? these are horrible!

Ah, kindred spirits :)

I wish wish wish I loved my mil. Especially since I lost my mom this year. I knew she could never come close to what I had with my mom but I was hoping she could step up for her grandkids. Nope. She's the most selfish, manipulative person I have ever known.

We have a lot of history, basically she has never committed to anyone longer than 5 or so years. My husband is her only constant, in her eyes I took that away. He is a strong willed, passionate person...yet she sees him as weak and easily controlled by me. As if!? So anytime he hasn't bent to her will, it's my fault.

She also expects me to be a 1950's housewife since I stay home. I do a bunch but I also am very involved with getting my kids out of the house and active...so my house isn't always spotless. My husband tells me she was never involved in his activities/taking him out on adventures. She'd shove him outside and not see him for the day so she could clean.

The worst altercation was probably with our first born, he came early (30w) and we asked the nurses to call us if anyone showed up without us to visit him. She twisted that into "I'm banned from seeing my grandchild". Stopped talking to my husband for 2 weeks. Then wrote a nasty letter about how it was all my fault (was actually my husbands suggestion to know when he got visitors). So I sent a letter back pointing out how she was being selfish and playing the victim. That turned into us all sitting down to talk things out. Where she told my husband that she should always come first then me and then our son! He of course said no. That, while she was always important in our lives...his wife and child come first.

Then she moved away shortly after(thank god) but has only seen our children a handful of times. She doesn't send birthday or Christmas gifts to them. Comes in town once a year...not for their birthdays but for hers. One year we decided to plan a weekend away for our 5 year anniversary (which fell on her last day in town). She didn't visit us that year because we made plans during her planned visit. She hardly even sees us when she comes in town. Maybe 1/3 of her stay ?.

Lastly we're expecting again. Not planned. When my husband told her her first response was I tricked him and that he's stupid for thinking otherwise. And that I'd better hold my own this time around. Like she knows anything about our family life or who I am. Wish I could trade in my mil. But at least her behavior has made me realize how important it is for me to be a loving mil in the future. So thanks I suppose ?