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Amber J. Stacy
2016stacys
Amber J. Stacy
Well after 2 years of marriage I'll more than likely be filing for divorce this week. I just can't take the lies and empty promises any longer. From helping him get over being an alcoholic and doing Adderall and meth to being 100% sober for 5 months. Then we moved to MS to be closer to his kids from a previous relationship. Instead of spending every waking moment trying to have a relationship with them he focused on his mom and brother who got him back on drugs. We finally moved back with my family in CO and his drinking is getting out of hand. Everyday is the same fight about his drinking. Everyday he uses his kids as an excuse for it. When we lived in the same state he didn't make an effort to turn his life around to build a relationship and now he wants to make excuses for back sliding. I've lost all faith in him. I can't believe not one word from his mouth. I refuse to let my daughter smell alcohol on his breath everyday, and I will not bring another child into this world with a man who will not get his life together for ALL of his children.
14.05.2018
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2016stacys
2016stacys
@a.lares When he is sober he is the most amazing dad and husband. As soon as he gets one beer in him he becomes this fiend who doesn't know when to stop. He acts out and breaks things (mostly on accident), then cries and tell me he wants to change his life, but the cycle never ends. I believe maybe that if he loses everything that maybe it will make him realize what he is doing to the only people that love him is not okay.
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2016stacys
2016stacys
@mokai08 I really have tried as long as possible and kept my faith thus far, but I don't see it changing
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supermomof4
supermomof4
I totally understand I was just trying to give another outlook on the situation
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2016stacys
2016stacys
@babymamaof4 I really have. No one wants nothing to do with him. I care so much about him, but the situation hasn't and I don't believe ever will change. I have to think about our daughter and this new baby. They deserve so much better than hearing us fight all day and smelling their dad. Right now it's just me and I don't involve anyone in our problems, but once our daughter can talk well enough I don't want her going around telling everyone "my daddy smells like beer everyday....." She doesn't need the pressure from other adults to try and explain and validate my husbands drinking. I did that with my own dad and I never want her to experience that
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supermomof4
supermomof4
That’s hard and stressful on so many levels but have you thought about if you give up on him who would be there to stop it from getting worse. I understand the frustration and the hurt but if you are all he has keeping him together somewhat then if you are gone what’s left?
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techie_grrl
techie_grrl
That's so incredibly hard. In the end, you do what's best for you and your babies, even if it means leaving him behind. I hope that you find peace with your decision and can stand strong in what needs to be done.
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crimejunkie86
crimejunkie86
I'm so sorry girl, I'm divorced 2 times was married 2 alcoholics and physically and mentally abused. But I have a good man in my life now and so thankful for him. Stay strong mama there is a rainbow after the storm. (((Hugs))) prayers.
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melissaredfield87
melissaredfield87
Praying for you momma!!! And sometimes even though it hurts we need to do what’s best for ourself and children❤️Women are the strongest human beings I know but when we have had enough we’ve had ENOUGH!!!
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a.lares
a.lares
It's painful when u want ur children's father to love them and give them what they deserve as far as being a role model and making their kids #1 priority over their addiction but know it's out of ur hands. He needs to fight that battle on his own no matter what u do he won't stop until he decides he is done. Excuses are a cop-out
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mokai08
mokai08
Sounds like you've done the best you can to stick it out, mama.
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