Venting: My SO most definitely acted all excited when I found out I was pregnant, and definitely…

I hear ya! My husband does practically the same. Stay strong!

@willi1163, thank you, trying but it’s hard. I feel emotional defeated by all this right now

@joyfulmom2b going threw the same exact crap.. it’s so sad 😭 men are such assholes

@jessicanlos2015, soooo true! And honestly it’s not even like it’s that much to ask for.. your concern? To show u care sometimes?. My mind can’t comprehend this sh!t anymore

@joyfulmom2b girl I have never cried as much as I have cried this pregnancy 🤰🏼 I feel like I’m so done at times girl I pray a lot about it..

@jessicanlos2015, this is my first but I’m definitely on the same level with you.. 😭 that’s exactly how I feel yet I try and have hope. I want my family, and I want him to comprehend.. but I’m wasting my breath so much.. tried of feeling hurt and depressed

@joyfulmom2b, exactly girl. Then u tell them how u feel.. n they look atchu like ur the one extremely hormonal.. fuck out of here.. the worst thing in the world is laying down with some one n feeling completely alone smh 🤦‍♀️

@jessicanlos2015, omg yes!!! That makes me hormonal when he says that crap to me! Like ok sometimes when I start to cry yeah I can’t help it, I wasn’t like that before, but my emotions on how I feel you treat me and this situation are actually how I feel and u doing something it. Would show me something at least

@jessicanlos2015, and yes most definitely is the worst feeling ever 😭😒

@joyfulmom2b, the least they can do is baby us n give us extra love n attention shit we are creating a whole human damn like is hard we go threw a lot of changes n emotions

@jessicanlos2015, completely agree and to not even be able to do simple shit not even smoother us wit love.. just depressing, like u shouldn’t be stressing out the women carrying ur baby!!! At 30 weeks I was in the hospital having full blown contractions, and I can’t even get some love ☹️ ugh

@joyfulmom2b, I seriously hope it gets better bcuz I’m over it.. I love love love my husband but I’m getting really tired of feeling this hurt n alone ect when I need him the most

@jessicanlos2015, I really hope he realizes for ur sake and ur babies.. and it just wears on a person a lot.. it’s hard feeling like someone doesn’t care as much as u and you’ve always been right at their side when they have needed you. And ty for chatting also btw, made me feel alil better tonight abt it

@joyfulmom2b, yes same here thanks really needed someone to chat with... hit me up when ever u feel need to talk about our idiot loves lol good luck hope it gets better for u👌 xxx

@jessicanlos2015, same and ty again, same goes to you!! Lol hopefully something wakes them the hell up already

Can I just say that, have you ever thought there's an underlying issue to why they are becoming distant? @joyfulmom2b you said this is your first child, is it also your partners? If so he could be just becoming nervous and doesn't know how to open up to you. Remember that men go through emotions differently to us women so please don't be so hard on your husbands 😊

@paige_1999, yes it’s first child and I know he’s nervous we’ve tlked about it and he’s had most of this pregnancy doing whatever he wants n mostly his needs.. he’s literally just disappeared a few times. I’m not hard on him, and for the most part when he’s not stubborn thanks me for keeping him in check and getting his life together. I don’t believe it’s a lot to ask that he’s more available to me now that we are getting closer to that time and the worries of preterm labor.. he knows it too, he just doesn’t know how to I guess. He’s a big man child. It’s kind of a respect thing, I’ve done for you for yrs, now I’d like that back alil. Honestly though, he’s got ADHD and i believe it’s gotten more intense and that’s y he’s everywhere rn. We tlked some this morning, and he apologized but he’s done that a lot.. I’d just like to see some kinda concern from him

@joyfulmom2b I do believe that the ADHD may be part of the underlying issue. I'm glad you guys have spoken but maybe this is something he may need to go see a counsellor for or a therapist whichever is suitable for you and your partner. I however see what you mean about the respect and all that, sometimes it does take after the baby is born for them to realise and some don't realise till the mum either returns to work or goes on a girls night cause then they see what we mean by it all

@paige_1999, agreed his mom and I both asked him to go to a therapist again, but he’s been stubborn. He’s been riding like dirt bike/quad as a healthy vent but he’s turned that into a all the time thing to the point of not even really working currently. I have enough stress and he’s got a very easy going job.. he needs to focus and work again. Riding is only suppose to be a vent, not life. But yes I’ve been told it will probly take till babies here for him to change and realize but I’m also worried he’s gonna try to run again when things become more abt baby.. and leave me in a shittie spot again. Idk step by step I guess, hopefully he learns to give me that respect back again, bc it worries me how he runs away when nervous, we aren’t kids anymore and I can’t have him just disappearing on his kid.. it crushes me when he does, I can’t imagine a young child.

@joyfulmom2b have you considered asking him to do the therapy together? Maybe he will feel a little bit more comfortable having you in the room along with him. I understand what you mean honey. I actually growing up had my father run out when I was 2.5 months old and since I was about 9-10 years old he is trying to pick up the pieces and become a father and a grandfather. It's not easy for a kid either.

Just one step at a time with your partner who knows he may come around the more you talk to him about how you are feeling and try using more 'we' then 'you' otherwise he is going to feel like it's all his fault and that he is the reason for everything

@paige_1999, he actually suggested doing that a few months ago and I asked him to do it after he disappeared again and then refused.

And I’m sorry to hear that but that’s my point exactly I rather try to prevent anything like that happening in the future bc it really messes wit a kid. And we both came from divorced families at a early age, he originally would go off saying ur stuck wit me for 18yrs bc we aren’t putting our kid through what we have dealt wit. So idk he’s so back and forth, it just messes wit my head.

And mostly definitely keep the “we” thing in mind.. think that could help.. bc he flips stuff I say that isn’t even relevant to what I’m saying bc he feels like it’s all his fault... and he should just keep up this behavior.

@joyfulmom2b the more you push to not have your baby have that life the chances are they will cause you'll end up pushing each other away emotionally and mentally.

I'm glad I could be of some assistance for now.

I'm sorry you didn't have a good up bringing either

@paige_1999, yeah, we where on the same level with how we wanted to make that work, but he’s just all over the place. Says one thing, does another and or does reckless stuff, hopefully when baby comes his mind settles alil bit at least.. and thank you, appreciate it