Is it bad that I don't want my SO's mom to be here a whole week? It's like I have to fight for his attention and affection when she's here and she's always being messy and it's like he never sees it
@misscoco hmm well I applaud your fiance. Cause I used to talk to my boyfriend about it and he wouldn't say anything so it just continued until she moved away.
@qwiona it's a little better now that we had this 2nd baby. But before it was bad. They would pop up out of nowhere. I like to walk around in my underwear lol. My fiance spoke up once he got tired of then popping up and always coming over late
@misscoco yeah I completely understand that. But my boyfriend acts like he has to tell his family everything. How do you deal with living down the street from her? His mom was like 20 to 30 minutes away and she'd always show up unannounced
@qwiona yea. That's why I keep my family semi clueless about things but they are far away. I live down the street from my fiance's mother...it can be stressful sometimes when we are trying to work through things
@misscoco yeah that's what I said but in his mind his mom could do no wrong and that creates a problem for me. I love my mom but I know when she's wrong too
@qwiona oh yea if they don't come around it probably happens to her too lol
@misscoco tried that and the fact that his brother doesn't even bother to come around with his wife anymore speaks volumes. He tried to tell me it's his brothers wife's fault but somehow I'm not so convinced
@qwiona hmm it depends. People on the outside of a relationship in my opinion should never be the ending factor if you really love that person or want to be with them. I'd say push through and step away from families until y'all are on the same page! nobody has a perfect family. But idk. Have a heart to heart with him on it
@misscoco yeah sometimes I'm just like I don't want to anymore you know? Cause I also feel like his sister is a drama starter too and he don't like spending time with my family cause he feels like we always stay up too late and talk a lot and then argue then be alright a little while later, but I'm like that's better than what your family does. Talk crap about each other behind their back but then want to pretend like everything is all good when they're together. So I'm just like do we go our separate ways cause we can't come to terms with each other's families?
@qwiona honestly I think you're doing the best you can. He has to be the one to speak on it dont give her the satisfaction of being able to make you look crazy lol. Just my opinion though.
@misscoco I'm not sure what to do. It's like I never win. So I've grown to resent her. Every time I try to be nice and cordial, something always gets twisted so now I'm just like why bother? There's so many things I want to say that I can't even express
@qwiona that's not what's up. The parents are a big deal because it's a difference between who a man was and who he needs to be for you and his family. I struggled with it a little bit because the line gets blurred sometimes.
@misscoco yes, yes he is. I didn't realize how much until we were deep in. And she just really doesn't like me like goes through lengths to even lie on me and it's like a battle to make him believe me
@qwiona anytime!