I just need to vent...so this week has been rough for some friends of mine...they were expecting a little girl, gender…
I just need to vent...so this week has been rough for some friends of mine...they were expecting a little girl, gender was known, the name was picked, nursery made and they lost her at the beginning of the 3rd trimester...they were having marital problems before, but it seemed like they were fixing their problems but the miscarriage made things worse...and on the brink of divorcing again...she's staying with her parents in MD and he's here in PA...he doesn't know when she'll come back...I understand that both families are grieving but she blames him for the miscarriage (idk why or how but she does)...rightfully they both wanna be left alone but it's my personality to wanna help people, and so is my hubby (got jealous of that but that's a different rant). If someone is sad, upset about something I just wanna be a shoulder to lean on and I can't...I'm just getting a cold shoulder...I feel so helpless and useless...😔😔😔😔😔😭😭😭😭😭
Samantha·
I know personally when I had my miscarriage... I didn't wanna talk about it or think about it and I certainly didn't want people asking about it and I was way earlier than she was. I'm sure with everything they have going on with their marriage it's that much worse so maybe they just need some space? I'm sure she'll come to you if you just let her know you're there for when she's ready! You're being a great friend sometimes it just takes time.
Christy Pfeiffer·
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@ohbabybaby88 He's my hubby's best friend and I've known him for roughly 8yrs, and it breaks my heart that he's going through the loss of his daughter, and nobody is giving him any sympathy like she wasn't his daughter, his wife didn't even want him talking about her on Facebook but yet she could, and the possibility that his wife might not come back home...😭😭😔😔
Samantha·
@armywife72515 I'm not the "talking about it" type when it comes to sad stuff... so my best friend who obviously knows this about me didn't even call me BUT she put together a care package of things she knows I love and a funny greeting card that she knew would get me to smile. Inside she wrote 5 words only "I'm here when you're ready" it meant the world to me, and it helped her. Maybe something like that would help you at least a little bit? To feel like you're at least doing something for him.
Christy Pfeiffer·
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@ohbabybaby88 that sounds like a great idea!
Dez·
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Honestly they r grieving and need time. She is in a lot of pain and is probably blaming him out of pain and needing someone or something to blame. With time things will probably settle down. I agree with just sending a message of I'm here when ur ready or need anything and leave it at that. That way they kno they have ur support but ur also respecting their need for space right now.