I just need to vent...so this week has been rough for some friends of mine...they were expecting a little girl, gender…

I just need to vent...so this week has been rough for some friends of mine...they were expecting a little girl, gender was known, the name was picked, nursery made and they lost her at the beginning of the 3rd trimester...they were having marital problems before, but it seemed like they were fixing their problems but the miscarriage made things worse...and on the brink of divorcing again...she's staying with her parents in MD and he's here in PA...he doesn't know when she'll come back...I understand that both families are grieving but she blames him for the miscarriage (idk why or how but she does)...rightfully they both wanna be left alone but it's my personality to wanna help people, and so is my hubby (got jealous of that but that's a different rant). If someone is sad, upset about something I just wanna be a shoulder to lean on and I can't...I'm just getting a cold shoulder...I feel so helpless and useless...😔😔😔😔😔😭😭😭😭😭