Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression....
The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹️
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽♀️ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become.
No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you're tired.
No one understands why you're irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or tSng you.
No one understands why you've lost your sex drive.
No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job".
Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief...
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏
I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wished upon a star I could stay home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before.
Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job"
@queenieeemeanieee, you couldn’t have said it any better! Took the words right out of me.
Very well said. Agree totally and I’m not a SAHM. Motherhood is difficult either way and we have to come together instead of mom shaming ❤️🙏🏾
Hugs mama. I can’t even tell you how hard it was for me to be a SAHM when I never was with any of my boys.
You DO lose yourself.
Although I am thankful for the opportunity to be a SAHM, I’m also glad I got to go back into the work force. My husband has never had to go thru what I had to and he NEVER will. Because my “job” isn’t as demanding as his, he still expects the same of me as if I were a stay at home mom.
Clean, cook, laundry...you name it, I still get held accountable when shit isn’t A1.
Women need to stop comparing motherhood to a “job” because being a mother isn’t a “job”
You don’t get rewarded the same way. You don’t interact with other human being the way you would if you worked...how the fuck do you even make friends when you’re home all the time?
I feel your pain girl 🙌🏼
@kingkaidensmommy, totally agree♥️