My grandma got me thinking earlier.. my baby girl is going to have a different last name than me. I…

To be honest this happened to me. I brought it up and explained how I don’t want have my kid walking around w a different last name from me bc I felt like ppl would wonder if it’s my kid and why last name is different. To many noisey people. Like she goes school you pick her up you will have show i.D and proof and shut like that which is CRAZY and for kids saftey. I brought it up and made a big deal about it yes we fought but than he understood my side and we got married almost exactly a month before she was born and had a small cute wedding! I personally would NEVER have my child not have same last name as myself

Maybe just hyphen your last names?

My son has a different last name than me. We're waiting on my fiance's dad to get shit together before we marry, but even then I don't plan on changing my name.

Just ask. Are you engaged? Be like, "I was thinking I'd like to get married before the baby comes, what do you think?" or aimilar.

@carolinab010496, @leroydoom, @nomli, @tribe.of.judah, we’re not even engaged 😔 and it doesn’t sound like we will be any time soon. I’m starting to get really stressed out over everything and question our entire relationship because I deserve that and I don’t know what the hell his hold up is. It definitely isn’t money! If he WANTED to he could get me a ring whenever he wanted. Which is why it makes me feel like he doesn’t want to. And why? And as for hyphenating last names, I have a really long Italian last name so it’s look pretty crazy 😅

@babyjjsmommy lol Well, who's last name sounds better with her name? Hahaha

@leroydoom, idk but everything is already monogrammed with his initial. I just feel so disconnected to this baby and I think it’s partly because we’re so disconnected. At least in my opinion.

@babyjjsmommy Awe, I'm sorry girl :( Maybe things will be different when baby girl is born and you'll feel closer and bond with her more.

@babyjjsmommy, haha. I kinda wish we had hyphenated his last name at least, but I didn't even think of it until way later. We haven't had an issue with doctors or anything, having different last names.

I once had a boss who had been with his girlfriend for over 15 years, and had no intention of ever getting married. He basically felt that the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, that he's committed to her and doesn't need a judge to validate the relationship. She agreed, so there was no issue, and I don't think they ever intended to have children anyway. Maybe that's his view on it too?

I gave my daughter her “sperm donors” last name because I thought we would end up married, and all that, we split up a month after I had her, and he has yet to ask about her or try to see her, now she has a different last name than me, and will also have a different last name from her brother/sister, and I hate it! I don’t recommend giving the baby his last name until your married, never know what can happen. @babyjjsmommy,

I let my son have his dad's last name because we were engaged and supposed to get married but he wouldn't ever really commit and settle until after I left. Then he wanted me to marry him cus I was no longer with him. Nope. But anyways point is now my daughter, son and I all 3 have different last names and its super weird dealing with paperwork. I get looks from ppl. Do what feels right but personally I'd give her your last name for now.

Double barrel it.

Don’t make her a mother if you wouldn’t make her a wife is how I see it. I told my husband he had until she was 1 to marry me or I was out. If he can’t commit to you, why should she have his last name 🤷🏼‍♀️

My son doesn't have my last name. He'll be 5 months old before we have the same last name

Girlie. Please go with your gut feeling. In the end it's just gonna be you in her. Likely cause things have been rocky for awhile. You can always change it later but only if he signs and agrees. I would go with yours and promise to change it to his once your married. I wouldn't let him talk you into something you don't want to do deep down. Stand up for yourself pretty girl. You deserve so much better then this. ❤️ I'm here if you need me! I still have the same number. Text me if you wanna vent. @babyjjsmommy,

Maybe you could hyphenate your last names for her.

@leroydoom, @nomli, @raquely, @mommy2be3, @tribe.of.judah, @memybumpandi, @theinkedmommy, @mommytotheo, @timsprincess0214, at this point in pregnancy I’m so damn irritable. He makes it sooooo much worse too. I’m busy today just cooking, cleaning, appointments, going to the store, which is usually on top of school but we’re on spring break. he gets home around 8 and goes straight to the shower and to the couch. I clean and do clothes, bathe our son, everything that has to be done basically. While he’s laying on the couch with the dumbest zoned out expression that I could just slap off of his face. So I go in our bedroom to study and do school work, since I haven’t gotten a chance to do shit yet and my son is jumping on the bed and falls. Then he does come and and try to offer help and by that point neither me or my son want anything to do with him. Instead of saying he’ll take care of Jax while I get some rest, he just asks what’s wrong while I’m already fuming and don’t feel like exploding and opening that door tonight I just blow it off and he goes to sleep on the couch like always, in peace. Here I am at 11 pm with a baby feeling like she’s about to fall out of me and another one that refuses to sleep and keeps whining and crying for absolutely everything. I’m literally about to say, if you don’t plan to get engaged within the next 2 months, then you need to figure out what you want because it’s not me. I shouldn’t have to be done with nursing school for us to get married. If he really loved me, he’d love me just the same as I am now without an RN behind my name. I really am questioning the last name now because it bothers me a lot. I don’t want to give her his and instantly regret it.

@babyjjsmommy, This way more than just a name. This is real sit down and talk situation. Don’t do anything rash, and don’t do it when you’re tired or angry!