My fumes are running low. I’ve always been a little jealous (not vocally jealous most the time, just…

It could just be the hormones! Doesn't mean that you can't feel that way, though. Maybe reassess the situation and see if there are reasons behind your feelings or if it just kind of intensified out of the blue.

My ex husband was a cheater, and always had side chicks he'd text. Drove me crazy, but I knew (I was dumb) it wasn't that they were just friends. It was always flirting, selfies and sexting.

It has made me exceptionally paranoid in my new relationship. My husband now just hired a new assistant manager, who is 4 years younger, and it was about 3 weeks postpartum for me. Her first few days, it was like all he could talk about was her, and it drove me fucking nuts and made me start to get depressed.

I kept thinking they were texting after hours, and seriously crazy shit. (they weren't lol)

Then, his old boss, who is a woman, too, the same age, but I totally trusted their friendships, tells him (he told me) that she is worried about the assistant manager and her boyfriend who works there, too. Like if she's worried! I should be worried!

I gave it some time, he stopped talking about her as much, I met her, and I realized I trust my husband and the feelings went away. I truly believe it was the hormones. Lol

Listen to your gut. Breathe. And if it gets really out of control tell him you need to talk it out because hormones can make you think crazy things.

Good luck!

@halifax6, my ex was a cheater too! He constantly had someone else, and majority of our relationship he was also with my cousin (I didn’t think anything of it and totally trusted him when he went to her house to help with her kid) and I didn’t find out about her until towards the end of our relationship. He was my first love and my first true heartbreak and to this day he still is, although now I’m IN love with Jordan, I still love Robert (not in love with him or enough to take him back of course) which is why I’ve always been weary in my head but lately these feeling have gone crazy! Thank you for responding, I’m going to ride it out a little and talk to him if nothing changes!

@hking18 past relationships with cheating can really mess with your head. Like make you crazy. I was CONVINCED my husband now was in love with this woman, and he was going to break up with me. I hid in the bathroom and cried. Got super depressed like I used to with my ex. And then one day, I was like... What is wrong with me? Lol

I know you are supposed to trust your gut, but last time, I had proof right in front of me in emails, texts, call logs, pictures and I did nothing!

I'm this instance, my gut is wrong.

This time, Every time I thought my husband was texting her, I'd peek and it was always one of his guy work friends. He always offeres me free range of his phone, I just don't look cause I trust him. Lol

Listen to your gut to an extent. Do research. Lol :] it's such a hard situation, cause they can have female friend and it's not their fault we dated total assholes. Lol

@halifax6, I know lol in the beginning of my relationship now with Jordan (almost 3 years) I was so isolated from him and asked him CONSTANTLY if he liked this girl he was always with (she was very pretty and I was very jealous) and I refused to let myself get close to him because I wasn’t ready to be hurt again. A little after 4 months I finally sat him down and let him know how I felt, in which he responded with hugging me and swearing he didn’t like anyone else, and he didn’t hang out with her anymore after that (even though I said he should still hangout with her so that doesn’t leave her out lol) he insisted on spending days with me and nights with the boys and I was perfectly content with that (he did have a few girls he hung out with while with the guys and they were nice and I trusted him around them and such.) He gave me free reign of his phone and any time I was feeling weary I’d just do a little check (I’d mostly check my messages with him and his messages with his girl best friend who is also his most recent ex) and then I’d be fine. It’s always been in the back of my mind though, and it’s been hard the past few months because his ex (the best friend) has been staying with him and posting about him and memories about them and such and it sort of ticked me off in the beginning but then I started struggling with jealousy again and now it’s worst than ever since all these girls (an ex included) started working at his job and it’s alllll he talks about. Its just nerve wracking lol but he’s mostly understanding, although this time around I mentioned how I was feeling and he just blew it off and told me to shut up (like Robert would have) and I know he’s not him and everything, but it still made me worry that much more. Now he hides his phone and makes sure I’m not looking when he’s texting and it could just be me getting paranoid but man, it’s pretty bad now

@hking18 okay, the hiding phone, the turning away is a definite red flag. Especially with the ex posting memories and stuff. Nothing may be going on, but I'm still sorry that you're going through this and feeling this way.

I know, it worries me lol. I’ll see if he’ll let me see his phone today, just to bring down my nerves a bit. If not I’ll just confront him and let him know how I’m feeling and see what he says. Wish me luck!! And thank you ❤️

@hking18 have you asked to see his phone? The other day, my husband got in my car and was like... Um, was there someone else in your car? And I'm like... No..? Then I realized, I moved the seat back and upright to look for something. Then I pushed it back and the car seat didn't for, so moved it forward again and I had the visor down cause the sun was in my eyes. Lol

So, he noticed that the seat was all messed up and the visor, it looked exactly like I had someone else sitting in the car.

It could all be a matter of perspective. Lol

I asked him about 4 days ago and he said no and that he’s waiting on a text, I didn’t really think much of it except I knew he was talking to his ex earlier that day. I’m probably overreacting, I’m just letting it get the best of me. There’s probably a perfectly good explanation to it. Its just getting at me because I’m already scared he’s not going to be able to handle being a dad, so the doubts with him leaving me are definitely there, and now this to add onto it. I’m a mess lol