I just have to say something. I have taken care of my child since day one all by myself! The only…
I just have to say something. I have taken care of my child since day one all by myself! The only time my parents help me is when I work which I only started working at the end of November. I never do anything because my child is my life and he comes first! His father is never ever around. He barely comes for his court scheduled visitations but he boo hoos like he's the victim and acts like I keep him from my son when I absolutely do not! He throws in my face "what do you want me to do quit my job?!?! "Ok well I have to work too and you not coming around ever is a burden on my parents who have to then watch my son. Which they love watching him but it's not there responsibility especially when it's a weekend he is suppose to have him or a Thursday evening he is suppose to take him a few hours. My parents and I will always keep my son and do what we have too but it's not fair to us. Like I deserve a break too. I'm a mother 24/7 and this guy can't bother! He ditched my son last weekend to go on vacation and then he has " plans " for this weekend so he can't take him! Like what kind of plans are more important than spending time with your child?! Like include him in them!!! Instead of always leaving him out. He's also again ditching him for Father's Day this year to take his daughters away on vacation. He did last year too and that really upsets me! Like wtf asshole you have another child now like you need to start figuring out shit to include him! 😡😡😡 breaks my heart for my son like he's not good enough and he's always going to be left out of everything and is a giant inconvenience and is always going to be let down by this jerk off ☹️
sherry S·
Document it ALL for the courts save lock emails or texts from him and Print!
Kay Kay·
This may be difficult to do but drop him completely from your life. Dont ever force someone to be there that doesn't. I made that mistake. Once I cut all communication I wasnt worried about what he was doing and the kids and I were very happy. Of course being a single mom was hard but I didn't have to deal with the disappointment. Message me if you'd like.
Jess·
@lareina_kk, I can't completely drop him, I wish I could! He's never sign off his rights.
Kay Kay·
@missjess i mean as in if he misses his days just document it. Dont call and beg him or ask why. It will only hurt more😢. When you go back to court just show them what you have and they will deal with him. At the end of the day you know whats best for you and your child. ❤
Jess·
@lareina_kk, oh yeah I don't say anything anymore. He's not worth it. But it still hurts me for my son that he's an inconvenience and that he doesn't want to spend time with him. And then try's to act like he's father of the year in court 🙄
Kay Kay·
@missjess ive been there before. You will be suprised who may come into your life later and be the father to your son that he never was.
Jess·
@lareina_kk, yeah my guy now ( he doesn't live in the same state) but he talks about all the stuff he wants to do with him when he's older and how he wants him to come with me when I go visit him. And when he comes here. He's like I want us all together as a family. ❤️ him just saying that is already more than what his father has done in the past almost 2 years of this babies life! ☹️ his dad just ditches him instead of including and that's sad on his part. He's going to regret it one day. And especially when we don't live in NY anymore and he's not just a couple hour drive away but an airplane ride away he will of been like damn maybe I should of stepped up and been there now I really can't. But he's there any chance he gets for his daughters who live in another state! It blows my mind.
Katie·
Мама сына (1 год)
I have somewhat of the same issue. I don’t trust my sons father to take him anywhere. I have a restraining order against he other sons mother cause she’s a psycho. He lives with her and takes care of those kids. I filed for child support because he wasn’t helping at all. The only reason I haven’t filed for custody is because I’m scared they’ll give my sons father visitation. Right now he barely comes to visit which works for me. My son doesn’t realize yet.
Jess·
@krprincipe, see my sons dad only came to visit him once a month for like an hour before I filed for child support then he went and filed immediately after child support court for custody and then started to come around more to make himself look better for court. Then he wanted all this time with him and he never shows up. He comes for his weekends majority of the time otherwise he doesn't come for anything else. Very rarely will he come for a Thursday visit and holidays are when it's convenient for him.
Jess·
@krprincipe, and I don't trust my sons father either because he's super neglectful and does whatever the hell he wants.
Katie·
Мама сына (1 год)
Same with mine. Luckily mine hasn’t tried that crap! I have a crap ton I’d messages from him, sadly the Cory’s don’t care about how they treat you. My dad use to beat my mom and he still got visitation with me. I do everything for my son. The “child support” I receive doesn’t even cover my sons insurance. And I’m a teacher, so I’m not rolling in the dough haha
Jess·
@krprincipe, no they don't! They don't even care how he treats him! It's sad :/ and i certain don't have much money either! I didn't even have a job when I took him for child support but he acted like he wasn't suppose to help me at all!
Katie·
Мама сына (1 год)
@missjess, exactly. Mine said that he had no money to help, yet he’s paying everything for his other kids. Their mom sits at home and does nothing. I live in a very rich county, so I’m on that cusp of don’t make enough to live on my own, but make too much to receive any assistance. I was like first you don’t come to see him, second you act as if you don’t care by doing anything for him. I let it be for almost a year and a half before I filed. He owes my son 2000 bucks