I'm 32 years old and my daughters father is 24 years old. How did the f**k this happen bc I don't age and I'm a good time. The good times got me pregnant.. Lol there's a lot of ups and downs. He just recently told me, "that he hasn't lived his life and I did" I told him, "then why did you stick your dick and came in me knowingly it was/wasnt going to happen? " he said "I didn't think it was going to happen ". So now I'm extremely mean to him. Yes he drinks a lot because there's no responsibility at the moment. You guys are young and it's only going to get worse and worse. Let him be or you'll find him lying and hiding shit behind ur back just so he can live his life. I know you want it to work so badly but a man needs his own time to mature into a man. It sucks but u gotta give him space.

@memybumpandi, thank you so much

@bearaboo4, write it out, it helps there are too many thoughts going through your mind. Write a note to yourself in your phone or notebook. If you want delete it so its gone or keep it and read back in a few months and see how far you have come. But get the thoughts out, its so therapeutic.

@memybumpandi, I just can’t sleep at all

@bearaboo4, we have all had that one guy or two LOL! That has literally drained us at one point. But you will come through it. Xxxx

@memybumpandi, thank you so much this is helping so much

He has made his choice, cool. It hurts and its not easy but one day you’ll look back and laugh.

@bearaboo4, cry its healthy our tears have natural painkillers in them its soothing. Let that anger out BUT stop. Don’t let it consume you. There is nothing more determined nor powerful than a woman who has cried her last tear.

@memybumpandi, thank you so much it means so much I kinda want to cry

@bearaboo4, You know what it is, he is 19 his boys are “living life” he feels he is missing out. But he doesn’t realise that children and a good woman dont come easily. The easy road always looks tempting for a reason.

But honestly, do you. Cry your tears, then stop and build your life. By the time he is “ready” you would have long surpassed him.

@muva.tings2018, she with her dad we have split custody. I called him and he said he will let me see her tomorrow before work

@pierced_momma, thank you so much!

@bearaboo4 oh shit then he's just mean spirited. One beer shouldn't do all of that. He's young. Well enough about him. Where was your babygirl? How are you both doing?

Hey we live in the same city and i just want you to know im here for you if you ever need someone to talk to and you're doing a great job, it takes a lot of strength to say you'd rather be single than have an unhealthy relationship

@muva.tings2018, he only 19

@muva.tings2018, he only had one beer

@bearaboo4 you both are so young why is he drinking so heavily? Does he get mean when he's drunk. The comments he made sound like a mean drunk.

@muva.tings2018, he won’t I know for a fact

@bearaboo4 WOW. He sounds like he turned into a complete monster. How do you go from a loving relationship to saying stuff like that. Oh you know drunks say really mean shit. He may not want to be with you but tell him he needs to do something about that heavy drinking if he wants to be around that child.

@muva.tings2018, plus the drinking I don’t want to be a part of

@muva.tings2018, he said he would be here for the child but didn’t have to be with me

@bearaboo4 it is so crazy to me how quickly a man will switch up on the mother of his child. That is so ridiculous. I guess I shouldn't consider anyone willing to do what he just did much of a man. And you are 100% right I didn't even think about the implications of him so easily giving up. This is the second time. We talked the first time and I really thought he sounded scared but like he was going to try. That is so horrible on his part.

@bearaboo4, Good luck and be strong.

@memybumpandi, thank you so much

@bearaboo4, my thoughts exactly. Its never easy, but when young impressionable eyes are watching you, you must move wisely and strategically.

@memybumpandi, she doesn’t need someone that drinks everyday and can’t he his life straight

@memybumpandi, I can’t do it and plus my daughter doesn’t need that

@bearaboo4, That sounds like a healthy decision.

@muva.tings2018, I don’t want to be with him if he can just give up like that plus not caring about my feeling and caring that I need him and not coming up after with I’m done

@bearaboo4 that doesn't even make sense. I really hope this all gets sorted out. He should be ashamed.

@muva.tings2018, he said he was never ready for this relationship

@bearaboo4 oh honey, i'm just as confused as you. He can't possibly expect you to believe that. He was being a father to your daughter and now for whatever reason being a father to a child thats his has twisted the relationship and caused him to have built up anger? It doesn't make sense. Is he afraid you two may struggle financially because of another baby? I could understand that freaking him out.

@muva.tings2018, he still hasn’t wanted to talk to me about how he feels and he said he’s had built up anger that he cares about me but he was never ready for the relationship that he’s done

@bearaboo4 did he give an explanation?

@muva.tings2018, yeah he acted like it!

Whoa, what the fuck. I thought you two were doing better?!

Im sorry girlie