So we have been looking for a new place since we live in a two room apartment and my son is getting…

I wouldn't move there honestly. I. Live 3 minutes from mine. We get along okay but even I can't. Wait to move farther from them. Does your husband stand up for you? If you said no visitors would he be fine with that or would he get upset?

Would they call waaayy ahead of time and ASK to come before coming? Would they leave when asked? Would they keep visits the same amount as before not more? Can you count on your husband to listen to you and respect that this is your space and to not let them go all over you and your family espicially during PP time. Would they respect your PP time? They would know possibly when 8n labor due to being so close. Would they be respectful and wait till YOUR ready to see them?

We live 3 blocks from my in laws and we just asked them to call before they come over if they want to. Hubs has a weird thing about people just showing up, it’s his biggest pet peeve.

@mama_of_one, Yeah I get along with them well and his siblings but I do want my privacy and I don’t like people over. He some times stands up for me, I think sometimes when it comes to his family he feels bad which is where I have approached them but my approaches come off rude a lot of the times. He’ll most likely tell me it’s my home so to make the rules and let it be known I don’t want them over a lot, But I want him to instead since it’s his family. Although we get along just fine, I feel like when it comes to in laws they’ll always feel some time a way when you say something and it’s not coming from their son.

@ka53yl33, My husband doesn’t mind people, I’m the one who doesn’t like visitors lol. We don’t live closed to family and friends and when it comes to my family and friends they know to call. His family right now since we don’t live closed don’t visit much. But I feel like living closed to them they’ll try to come over a lot. Especially his little siblings to come see the kids and stuff

@mama_of_one, I’m really not sure which is why I want to talk to my husband. Since we don’t live closed to them now they barely visit. They have asked before when they have came here but I feel like living closer would change things

@karennn it will for sure. And you want to keep them the same which is great. You need to let your husband know if you move there you will place rules and you expect them to be followed or you won't see them

@karennn, I could definitely see the younger siblings wanting to come over a lot. Everyone told us not to move close to they in laws but I love it because if I need something they are always close. For example when my daughter was a month old she had a high fever, so on the way to the hospital I dropped him off there and my mil met me outside to grab him. They also want to live their own lives and do their own things. It’s not always about their kids, granted their youngest is going to be 33 at the end of the month, so it’s a little different.

@mama_of_one, Yeah I like our relationship and I don’t want it ruined over petty things. I want to let my husband know that it’s our home and whatever rules we set they need to be followed and respected.

@ka53yl33 it depends on the relationship and how they are. Some MIL or families can be all about their kids and make the wife's life miserable.

@ka53yl33, Yeah his youngest sibling is 5 which is only 2 years older than my daughter and she likes playing with her. And I don’t mind it once in a while but I want my space and privacy and don’t want them over all the time. And I agree especially being pregnant again living closed to them might be a help when I go in to labor and stuff

@ka53yl33 luckily I have an okay one and can rely on them to help with certain things. But his brother is cut off from me and they don't ever babysit or have alone time.

@mama_of_one, They’re really closed to my husband but so far they have respected me. So hopefully they understand that just because we’re going to be living closed doesn’t mean they can be over a lot.

I want that place because is affordable and great, And they neighborhood is also good.

@karennn if you have an OK relationship and you think your husband will follow with you in that this is your house and your kids so your rules not your in laws rules that's great. I hope it works out for you!

@mama_of_one, I hope so too. Thank you!