Thank you i appreciate the opinion for sure... I was abused in my past relatioship with my first sons father and completely ignored it until things got out of hand... Not doing that this time ... Me and my sons deserve better xoxo... Thanks again

Tell him to stop mentally and emotionally abusing you. Because that’s what it is. And tell him it’s not right to degrade you and joke around and make fun of you in front of the children. They should be having respect for you and they will only give you as much respect as the father does. And if he doesn’t care that he hurts you when you say those things and you’ve already discussed it with him then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship and how he is toward you and think about if you deserve more. I’m not bashing him nor you this is just from a general outer perspective