I'm almost in my 30s and still often feeling like that.... my advice, start doing what pleases you! We're human too and if we dont put ourselves first even at times before our kids we will never survive. To set yourself as a priority will set a good example to your kids of how to be strong. By standing up to these mens, it will show them your worth and if he cant respect a women who can rspect herself, HE IS NOT THE ONE.