Im not sure if this text i want to send to my ex sounds too harsh or not ??? I need some opinions…
Im not sure if this text i want to send to my ex sounds too harsh or not ??? I need some opinions please .... this is what it says ......
(Gunna delete after getting some opinions)
Ok well your obvs ignoring my messages. You said you would put the money in for leo on wednesday and you still havent. So it feels like your not going to give it to me so this isnt going to work and we are going to have to do it through child maintance which we didnt want but it is coming down to that now. Ive been nice about it and never askrd you for money for things i have had to buy leo not last month or even whilst i was pregnant. This isnt the first time you have said to me youll give me some money for leo and you havent but each time ive let it go.
beff ·
Sounds okay to me. There's nothing wrong in putting your foot down and looking out for your child's best interest. Don't feel guilty about it, sounds like you've given him plenty of chances to help him out and not go through child maintenance and he's let you down, so why shouldn't you put something in place so your child gets what he needs.
Stay strong, you may feel horrible having to being the bad guy but your doing the right thing for your son!
Gabi·
Doesn’t sound harsh at all hun it’s his son two, you both made the baby so he needs to buckle up and support his son xx
🤦🏻♀️·
@sammy240118, Doesn’t sound too harsh to me. Does he work? My ex doesn’t work so baby would be entitled to about £7 a week no point me even applying to child maintenance. Exes hey who’d have them 😩x
steph·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет)
I wouldn’t even send the message, and either cut him off or if you need the money go CSA without warning him
Sammy ·
Мама сына-младенца
Yrh he works he is a supervisor
Jess·
Мама сына (1 год)
That sounds quite tame actually xx
harlie webb·
I'd honestly just go to csa and not tell him!xx
Sammy ·
Мама сына-младенца
I find it so hard as i have always done what he says csuse a part of me used to think if i dont then he is going to hate me and not be with me so i used to hide in his shadow. So i struggle a bit with stuff like this x
harlie webb·
@sammy240118 but if he's your ex it shouldn't bother you what he thinks babe! I know it's hard my daughter's dad was controlling different I know but once we split up I was still trying to please him..And one day I just put my foot down and he seems to have more respect for me than ever! I'd either just send it and if he doesn't reply or he's funny just go to csa xx
Sammy ·
Мама сына-младенца
@harlie_kariss ive sent it but he was nasty back saying im being spiteful demanding and barking at him.
harlie webb·
@sammy240118 it wasn't spiteful or demanding just ignore him and go over his head because he's clearly refusing to pay for his son!xxx