Advice ladies please so i am basically in a fight with my husband gor one his mom and mine was gonna throw me a shower…

Advice ladies please so i am basically in a fight with my husband gor one his mom and mine was gonna throw me a shower for sunday and i live in maryland with him and my mom in in jersey mind u i was raised with my mom so i know a whole bunch of ppl who would show up to my shower if i have it here noone gonna show up cuz i dont know anyone at all so i told my mom id rather having in nj and he is mad saying his mom wont go if is up there and i told him basically ok if she dont want to go cool is about me not her anyways than im tellin him my son gonna stay with my mom only cuz other day we left my son with his mom and came back for a few hours we went out for valentines day and csme back with him completly wet cuz she didnt change his diaper and she had to pick up her other son so we drove in while she did and my son was not buckled in the right way in his carseat and i told him yo ima have surgery he will b with my mom cuz i know she b on top of shit like that then he like fine he will stay with my brother for 3 days his brother is always falling asleep cuz he stay up all night playing video games and he wont watch him like i would want him too. Not dating he not a good unvle but he is only 19 my mom will b the only one not for nothing that i know i can b comfortable after a surgery knowing my son will eat get his diaper changed and everything he will b 100 perfect and he going off on me becuse of all this like first off this is my baby shower my mom gonna hook it up and have ppl i know n there and i will enjoy it better than i will out here since i know noone out here and who tf want to b uncomfortable of who thier kid gonna b with and if thier kid will b well taken care of after surgery all this bs got him going off on me im like whatevrr nigga fuck what u say if u dont want to b at my shower because u think she gonna feel bad cuz i want to b somewhere i know ppl will come i dont give a fuck and u mad cuz my mom gonna take our son 3 hours away ok i wasnt too happy wih it ethier but i know he will b perfect with her she dont work her attention will nlb all on him what do u think mommas and im doing somethin wrong here please tell me if i am