Girls, I'm torn about something. My fiance has a little girl who is 7. He hasn't been in Her life…
Girls, I'm torn about something. My fiance has a little girl who is 7. He hasn't been in Her life because he didn't find out about her until she was 4. Her grandmother has full custody. What I am about to ask has to do with our relationship and her knowing about me. We have been together since I'm guessing few months after she was born. He recently has contact and visited her a few times when we were in Texas. After we found out I was pregnant, he made a big deal about me getting to know her. He's the one who wanted her to not know about me, then he goes and tells her she's gonna be a sister and that doesn't phase her which is understandable. I ask him why now he all of a sudden wants me to be involved when he wants to hide me. He said, "Every time I talk to her seems like you don't want to talk to her". That is not the case..he NEVER wanted me to talk to her..so idk what to do...and it's hard now with our own little one coming soon. Another thing that is severely getting at me is that her grandma is making a HUGE fuss since he told them I was pregnant like she's supposed to be his only kid...sorry but it's just making me angry and he brushes it off..
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Try to bond with the little girl honestly fuck the grandmother because she's really a nobody in this equation it's between you your spouse and the little girl .. at least give it a try for your baby but if it doesn't work out don't force it at least you can say you tryed it's not worth stressing your self out
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love it's difficult because his daughter rarely skypes with him anymore. I told him I want to but it's never a good time
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
I know your point he tryed to hide you but now make yourself known but at your own paste and if it's getting to much as things not gonna go nowhere then at least you can say you put your best foot forward and you can't force a little girl yo understand or like you. Your ate having her half sister or brother not tryna be her mother if that's the case
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love I don't expect to be a mother. Maybe at most be someone she can talk to about stuff when she's a teenager and all that. He biological mother doesn't do shit for her
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@ccrawr yes that would be best at least shell have that mother figure to get advice and trust if her mother and that side of the family is a fuck up that's not your problem just play your part the best way to you can but don't even waste your time with the grandmother and mother seriously that's something your spouse has to put his foot down on if they even try to step to you
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love I wish he would..he sees how much it hurts me. Idk if it's bad it feels like a partial attack on me for getting pregnant
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@ccrawr don't ever beat yourself up you didn't do this to yourself, don't ever stress yourself on something you couldn't control it takes two remember and you didn't make him lay down with a fuck up meaning the little girl mother he did and then got you caught in the middle smh have a talk with him and get him to understand your point of view in this and you are willing to try and work things out only between you him and the little girl but if it don't go the way you plan please don't stress yourself out on it you have that little one to worry about and I don't wanna ever hear you stressing yourself out again ok do what's best for you and your bean don't stress yourself tryna make everyone happy and you not happy ok
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love thank you❤ I will have to have a talk with him tomorrow when he gets in from work..idk if it's something to bring out after he's worked 3 doubles but it needs to be said. Ur right can't let it eat at me
Vee·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (23 нед.)
I think that the little girl just wants love she must already be going through so much living with a grandmother and maybe you can be the light she is looking for and I feel she is lost and confused and bonding with her will trully make everything better in my opinion also she can be a great help with the baby because she is five not that little they will have a bond since they are sisters and even as they are older when you guys are old they can have eachother
Christina C.·
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@verguinia problem is she lives in Louisianna
Vee·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (23 нед.)
@ccrawr poor little girl :( I wish the best for your situation.
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@ccrawr just make it comfortable for him when he gets home and comfortable on you. Don't just throw it out there make sure you both are in a good space and start it off small but don't overwhelm yourself make a favorite dish or something and run yourself a bubble bath clear your head so you can have a smooth convo for the both of you he also gotta put his foot forward in that little girls life so all of you can be on the same page forcing a situation never works trust me
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Maybe if things do go well y'all can try to set up something for when school is out this summer y'all can get the little girl for a week of bonding and getting to know each other but at your place or even yall go over there get a room for the week and be with her just make sure your in your comfortable space in all this you know what I'm saying ..
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love I completely get it :)
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@ccrawr good wouldn't want my mama to stress out just take it steps at a time ok hunn 😉
Christina C.·
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@tiff.momma.love I will :) just feels like a huge weight to me now that we are having our own baby
Tiffany Eason·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@ccrawr I totally understand and it's not wrong to feel that way that's why you take steps so you can feel more comfortable and first step is having this talk and see how that goes first then you move from there but make sure it's a mutual thing between y'all both no separate pages do everything on the same page