Ladies here’s a question...
Ok you’ve been dating a guy for 4 months and he’s great! He’s supportive, takes you to all these nice places on dates, he has a nice car, and you’re head over heels, you know he has 2 kids with 2 different women but you’ve only met 1. He tells you his ex won’t let him see his other son because she’s bitter etc.........but then one day you find out that he’s been completely neglecting his other child, being a complete ass to the mom, refusing to co-Parent with her and living his life with you but he’s not doing 1 thing for his child. Then you find out his car is in repo status, it’s actually his ex’s car that she helped him get, but he hasn’t paid one car note and he completely left that on his child’s mother along with the responsibility of his child and he’s been getting parking tickets in her name and not paying them......how would you feel after finding all this out? Would you leave? Would you stay? Would it be too much? How would you react?
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@beezy_mcflyy, I’m sorry to hear you have to go through this. Im sure the current relationship won’t last with a guy like that. He does seem to be happy with himself so how could he be happy with someone else? Are you being left with the car expenses and tickets?
@beezy_mcflyy, he has to deal. He made a baby and created his past. He don’t get that choice. He needs to man up.
@morganmommy79, he said he didn’t wanna deal with the bullshit...but he should’ve dealt with his situation before hopping into a new one
@beezy_mcflyy, most likely it’ll get bad. Not in every case. But If he can easily not take care of his child because of the mother or whatever he will do it again. It’s already in his character. Just don’t get your heart too involved until you see where he goes with it. Pretty much everybody changes after awhile but see to what extent he does. He seems like the kind of guy who doesn’t like too much responsibility.
@t143, it’s kinda black and white in this situation....I’ve been trying to communicate, I’ve been trying to make things better with him and he wanted to be an ass and live his life.
@withlovedkj, this is my situation, it was good but then it got bad due to issues with his family. He chose not to deal with me, he would literally hang up in my face when I’d try to communicate with him. Now all of a sudden he has a girlfriend, he’s been living his life with her and neglecting our son
^i agree with her. My main question is why take care of one child and not the other? I used to favor my man’s ex all the time. We’d get into arguments because I defended her. Up until he let me hear their conversations and let me read their text messages.
Who did you get your information from and is all of this true? How was his relationship with the child’s mother that claims he’s neglecting him? Is it his child? I have so many questions before I give feedback @beezy_mcflyy,
My thoughts are that he’s treating her a certain way because possibly she stepped up and confronted his issues. So he’s mad at her and taking it out on her and his own child. Meanwhile, his other ex has not confronted him with his issues as a man so he takes care of that child.
Either way, he’s not taking care of one of his children. This could be you and your child some day. 4 months? Wait several years. His true colors will show and it probably won’t be this nice later on. This is def a red flag that he’s not really who he’s saying he is right now. I would at least not get to involved with feelings and moving in together or anything. I think he’ll change as soon as the new wears off.
He'd see the door real fast. No man treats a woman like that, no matter how bitter.
I would leave. Lol not taking care of his kid strike 1, treating the mother of his child like shit strike 2 (if he did it the them he could do it to you) and his car being not being his shows he’s a lowlife mooch strike 3 . Ding ding ding OVERKILL. There are a lot of great guys out there that are genuinely great and good person they don’t have to fake to be. “I could have another you in a minute “ and more 😂💁🏽♀️💯
All I can say is, a man that does not take care of his children is NOT a man. And when someknenshows you who they are.... Believe them!
@withlovedkj, yes....but they’re about to repossess the car. He claims to be happy with himself and his new relationship but Idk. He claims that she’s making him a better man