@toshagager1988 I agree! And your 12y may notice something is wrong. Kids are more intelligent than we think. And you don't have to share with her. But just let her know you are sad and its not them! My 3y comforted me once when me and her dad got into a fight.
Are you gonna be ok. And mom I am happy that you don't want the kids to see what you are going through. Yet at the same time please be careful! You don't want anything to happen to you. Nor while you outside