Also, for me orgasming is mental. I have to think of something that turns me on every time. Try watching some porn and see if you can find something that interests you

Use a cock ring. And there is a tingling lube. Use that too lol it might help

I rarely share sex stories but I've learned that for me to orgasm I need some type of pressure applied just above my lady parts. Idk why. But I've been with 3 men and my husband now is the only one that can get me to orgasm. We have a lot of chemistry anyway but foreplay def helps! Top is my fave position too. That pressure is automatic. That sounds weird but the best way I can explain it.

I can't please myself at all , I gave up trying. 😩

And I bet when he gets upset it makes u not wanna do it with him ever.

I agree with the other ladies. Personally I need foreplay and clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. It took me a long time before I realized that. You just need to experiment and see what works for you... whether it's foreplay, roleplay, vibrators, oral sex, or just some spontaneity...

but don't feel discouraged. Trust me when I say you're not alone. This is a very common issue with women, especially after giving birth. Communicate with your man and see what u guys can do together to fix things. 💙

@avasmommy808 it's an option though. Do you do foreplay? If so how long is it? Women need at the very least 30 minutes of warm up time.

No guy I've been with has ever gave me a orgasm either. More like when I had sex I had to rub my clit on my own to get off cause it just wouldn't happen with sex alone and none of the guys worried about me getting off they only cared about themselves getting off. I wanted to feel good too so I done it myself and it felt great lol. Sex would get boring if it was the same ol routine and I would Pretend I was enjoying myself most of the time lol. But I loved sex lol. I wanted it more than any guy I been with everyday multiple times a day... But that's just me.... Tell your partner you want to talk and yall come up with ways to focus on pleasing you. Guys love role play. Shoot I love role play lol. Look up different positions and do it randomly in unimaginable places like the car randomly one night on the way home get him to pull over and you hop on top, on the kitchen table, on the lawn lol etc and spice it up a bit so it doesn't get boring. He shouldn't get mad at you but yall should Communicate better to let him know why you don't want to do it.

@jmilanes3 I've tried that. It felt better but still wasn't close
@hippie_momma_bb Never tried anal but the thought of it doesn't sound pleasant to me

You're not alone sweety. Some people are clitoral stimulated. Other people are anally stimulated.