True or untrue already hard relationships with the babies father only gets harder after the baby comes..
@tiffanib I say wait to have the baby with him and see if he changes. Some men they do change but its true that the majority dont. For your baby, give the dad one chance to prove himself so that in the future you can tell your baby that its father is not in its life because he choosed not to be and not that you didnt allow him a chance to. Does that make sense? Not sure if i explained it well. Sorry about your situation but always remember that with or without him you and your babys happiness is the most important thing.
@bbyzvcy18, In my case I’m afraid nothing will change. Some things that have happened in his life should have changed him for the better have only seemed to make him worse..
Most of the time it gets harder, as even in a good relationship a baby can bring about problems. Sometimes a baby turns the relationship around, makes it better, but that's pretty rare.
It really depends on who he is as an individual. Some people change and some dont. For example my older brother changed after the birth of his girls. He actually kept a job, pay bills and of course settled down. My ex he never changed even after the birth of our daughter. He started doing drugs and never kept a job. My daughter's 10 now and he still acts like how he was when we were in high school. It all depends.
@bbyzvcy18, I’m definitely never going to keep our daughter from him but I’m definitely not going to be easy on him especially if he tries taking our daughter around all his little flings.. that’s the main factor of him not changing. He’s so used to cheating on the girls he’s with he doesn’t even see an issue with it anymore doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. I tried proving a point before I found out I was pregnant by leaving him when I found out he was still sleeping with his ex and other girl along with me.. I told him I was done and that it wasn’t right but a month and a half later or so I informed him of my pregnancy and he tried denying the baby infront of his obviously distraught gf at the time.. now I just hope things work out for the better if not I’m fully prepared to do whatever I have to do to make sure my little girls life is the best I can make it.