@tremzini lol best way xx

@michellewiggins1985, no your right hun. I’m just thinking they are both adults I’m just gonna let them get on with it. Might just keep my distance for a little while till the dust settles because I still wanna punch him in the face lol xx

@tremzini unfortunately it's an awkward situation I guess your probably worried for your sister but all you can really do is let her get on with it and be there if she needs you. I see you are worried about the age gap but there is 13 years between me and my husband I know when girls are young and date older men it's odd but it seems to be okay the older you get. I would let them get on with it sorry if that sounds horrible xx

Alot of mixed views.

I mean ben is 6 years older than me and i met him when i was 12🙈 but we got out happy ever after. Im sure your sister will know your there for her if she needs youx

@tremzini, yep it's all happening in my family 😂 and unfortunately there's nothing you can do! I'm just not getting involved with their relationship. I'm supporting her with the pregnancy and am happy she's happy but I'm also waiting to help her if and when it all falls to pieces. There's not a lot else you can do 😣xx

@isabellaboo, bloody heck lol xx

Just to try and make you feel better, my sister who is 18 is dating a 32 year old oh and she's just announced she's pregnant 😁 could always be worse!!xx

Sorry to say I feel @winterbaby95 may be right under the circumstances. Same happened with my sister my mum isn't well mentally and we have no dad no one to guide us or protect us..my sister was in a bad place due to my mum being sectioned and this creep used her vulnerability in his favour. You will never know the full true story or reasons because people lie to protect themselves all you can do is let her know she can tell you anything if he has been doing anything he shouldn't be xx

@tremzini I also think shes probably at that age where shes like oh...a guy is taking interest in me...she probably sees him as more mature than guys her age...which is understandable...

Maybe she likes the attention? But theres no way if i was a 29 year old..and your good friend...would I them go with your little sister. To be that is just out of bounds. It makes it worse because you know him. But honestly id talk to him...if they are really serious...then maybe get together in a.few years. But 18 is so young in my eyes xx

@tremzini Yes, I believe he has. I believe she probably had no interest... had a wall between him and her. But because she is obviously sad etc. I think hes worked his way in and is taking advantage of the situation and her. Maybe she doesnt see sense or what he has done because of her state of mind at the moment... he has crossed the line...ok support is fine...but to get with my baby sister at this point in her life where she is vulnerable and most likely not her self. Is disgusting. Xx

@tremzini I find it so out of order he should have more sense but from what you've said he sounds fucking creepy adding underage girls, at least you know you have Gary supporting you .. you've got a good one Emma! your mam knew? oh dear.. i would try and not overthink it all they've both fucked up, I really hope it doesn't last and Jess comes to her senses xxx

I'm 24 this year my OH is 34 but as you have said he's 29 she's 18 and known her since 12 is strange as he would still see her as a child in his eyes. You have every right to feel the way you do as your concerned. He is your best mate and that is a line crossed. Has he always seen your sister in that sense since he's known her all this stuff must be going through your mind. How long has this been going on ECT . I agree aswell better off talking to him about it. My sister was underage and I found out she had a boyfriend over the consent age having sex I called the police and they done nothing because they where both over 14 and they both wanted to do it. Just have to be careful he does not exploit her xx

@vic22, that’s what my mam said he’ll just be a faze.. I hope so

@winterbaby95, I started inviting my sister round more often to get her out of the house because I knew she was sad and he was around a lot.. has he seen my Mams cancer as an opportunity?

Wow!!! 😐😐 poor you!!

I cant see it lasting tbh.

My friend has a 10 year gap. With her fella but they got 2 kids now toox

@natalie.louise89, I can’t believe it and then two minutes after telling me they off broadcasting it all over Fb. It’s just so embarrassing. Gary rang mike and was pissed off but like he said what can we do about it. My mam wasn’t happy but hey she knew about it. I can’t trust people as it is and I do have a small circle of friends and now he’s just made me question things. How many people knew? Silly Emma doesn’t need to know xxx

Im fully aware of the age of consent lool. I dont need to be told. But reporting him could knock some sense into him. Regardless if nothing comes of it. But bottom line is... this is one of her good friends for years. They have both lied about seeing each other. But now its come about at the worst time. Which doesnt look good for him. I feel like her sister is vulnerable..not emotionally stable due to the situation (mum etc) and im assuming she has put up this fence between him and her. But now its down...so who knows what things he has said to her...what theyve said to each other. But to me it just looks like hes pounced on her in a vulnerable stage in her life. Xxx

He’s at work atm keeps ringing me every so often to make sure I’m okay bless him. I’m having a nice relaxing bath with a can of cider.. fuck it! It’s just shitty how nobody has thought about my feelings.. our mother has cancer! What if I was to wipe my hands of her? That would destroy my mam.. going to visit her and telling her to make sure she isn’t there. I just think they are selfish xxx @beffgoude, @kayteamay, @mckenziesmummy, @winterbaby95,

@tremzini Jesus! I would feel the same as you they've lied to your face when you confronted them! what's he playing at he's one of your best mates I didn't realise it was mike seeing jess it's fucked up, he knows what your going through with your mam too something nobody should have to deal with!! if he was a true friend he would of spoken to you about how he felt before doing anything, I don't know what to say about Jess but surely in her head she knows she shouldn't be seeing him, I really hope you'll be okay emma you know I'm here whenever you need to drop a message for a rant or anything! 😄 what has Gary said about it all? xxx

@kayteamay Yes I fully understand that. But Im pretty sure either way. 18 year old and 29 year old is wrong. @tremzini Said he follows loads of teens. What normal 29 year old does that? And when he was 25...he tried to add her (she was only 14) no 25 year old with good intentions would that..never mind someone with bad.

I agree. Maybe he is using her vulnerablity to his advantage. What kind of 25 year old wants to add a 14 year old?!? Like wtf. Thats creepy! @tremzini I thought I knew my ex...but I really didnt. You never know with people. Is there anything I can do to help you with this situation? I dont want you to take it all on yourself. Will your partner help you? Xxx

@winterbaby95 shes over the consenting age so theres nothing illegal about it. Unless theres evidence of him doing anything with someone under 16 you cant report it.

@tremzini people show there true colours when they get what they want finally. I mean if he was your friend I believe he'd respect that sister bond you have. And he'd have told you from the beginning not, 2weeks later and lie to you about it.

@winterbaby95, I do get your point but like everyone has said there is nothing I can do

@beffgoude, it’s like did I ever really know this guy

@tremzini @kayteamay yeh I agree to the not listening, talking from my experience. I always dated older people cause I had a lot of family issues and it always pissed my family off when I did.

Could it be a cry for help on your sisters part, especially with your mum being ill. And he's taking advantage cause she's finally shown interest in him after all these years? Hate to put these thoughts into your head like.

I dislike how he's made you out to be abit of a bad guy in that text too, Im reading it like if you don't agree with relationship youl loose us both.

His old ones in the bin

@srose1989 If shes 18..shes still really just a kid...and if shes immature...i doubt her thinking etc is that of an adult. So to me she is still essentially a kid. But this guy is 30...hes experienced life. Been there and done that. An adult in my eyes. Maybe he has been grooming her from the age of 12? So i dont think pedo is going too far at all.

He has just got a new computer that he has naked pictures of his ex on (17 at the time) and he does have a lot of teenage girls on his social media. He tried to befriend her on Facebook when she was 14 so I told her to block him and he then went on to add her friends from school. Why didn’t I just tell him to fuck off then why didn’t I say anything

@srose1989 @mckenziesmummy Yeah I know...but its still wrong. Reporting him may scare him out of being with her? Who knows?

Maybe friends shouldt cross that line but pedo is going a bit far x

@tremzini, oh no I'm so sorry your going through all of this! Xx

@winterbaby95, you can't report him, they're both of age, nothing police can do

Honest girls I’m not in a good place at all. I had to get the OH’s mother to come pick the kids up cause I just wanna run away from everything

@winterbaby95 report him for what there both adults

Agree with @beffgoude on this. Hes known her since she was 12?! Bit weird.

@tremzini The fact he has known her since she was 12 makes you wonder if hes waited this long for her to come of age. And has an intention to be with her for many years. And it would make me question my friendship with him. Like was he really friends with me..for me..or was it to get to my little sister. Im creeped out..and would report it myself. If you sister is immature...he could be saying all sorts of stuff to trap her...its disgusting really....like the thought of him grooming her all this time. Id go mad. Id walk him to the police station or put him in hospital. You dont need this at a time like this...I feel for you xx

@tremzini ill be completely honest with you but this could go 1 of two ways. They mess about for a bit and you never know she might end up with a baby and hes too immature to deal with it OR the relationship could be the making of them. They both grow up and get on with it. At the end of the day shes 18 so shes probably not going to listen to you. Maybe talking to him would be easier.

@tremzini I mean I find it a little disturbing he's known her since being 12, it's like he's watched her grow up then dated her in a sense 😓

I'd probably cut ties with him, or voice to him that your not happy and can't be happy for them.

Sorry to read your not well too, them lieing and basically saying it's in your head won't have helped thing either.

@tremzini He needs his head testing. Tell him straight. Im sorry regardless of maturity or not. An 18 year old and 29 year old is not morally right in any way. If i found out my 29 year old friend was seeing my baby sister. Id put him in hospital. Its not cool at all.

@natalie.louise89, he sent me a text today

@tremzini, Aweh no Hun! It's the last thing you need this!! Him being your friend and knowing her since she was little! Makes me feel sick! Bad enough this dude seeing my sister but they've been together a few years now and live together! 7 years between them, but I wouldn't be able to accept a friend seeing my younger sister not a chance! Talk to him I would! Xxx

@kayteamay,

@beffgoude, he’s not had a woman in 8 years so he’s like a fucking kid all over Fb he’s even put it in his Instagram bio. She’s really immature she doesn’t even look 18 xx

Honestly. My sister at 18 could be the most mature girl ever. But i still would not be cool with a 29 year old seeing her.

He’s been my one of my best mates for years and he’s known my sister since she was 12. It’s just not right he’s my sons godfather ffs, my Mams got cancer, I’m going to the doctors on Monday for postnatal depression and not I find out my best mates being seeing my baby sister for weeks and only told me today so they could make it official on Fb.. how nice of him to tell me via text message. I asked them both last week if anything was going on and they basically said it was all in my head and I believed them! Even my partner said I was crazy to think that @winterbaby95, @mckenziesmummy, I’m just not at a good place right now

what the fuck?! this is so wrong Emma when did it come out? did he even tell you? xx

I wouldnt talk to your sister. Id talk to your friend. He has crossed the line. Speak to him about it. Id honestly tell him straight that im going to report him. Even though they wont do anything since she is 18. But 18 is still not an adult.

What is he like and what is she like? Is she mature? 11 years seems like a lot now but its different when you are older.

I mean the fact it was your friend i find is a line crossed by your sister personally. The big age gap of 11years is worrying in my eyes like what would they have in common, but it's one of them things. Like @mckenziesmummy if you air your disgust at the relationship it might push them together more 🙄

Id report him honestly.

Tell him to get his shit together. That's just wrong. She shouldnt be encouraging him. If I found out my 29 year old friend was going out with my 18 year old sister..1. Id not be friends with him.anymore...2. Id call him out on being a pedo.

Oh no!! My sister is 18 and seeing a 25 year old! We all went ballistic because of the age difference but it pushed her more to him! I find it gross! He's older than me and my OH, yet he's seeing my younger sister 😳😳xxx