I need to stop putting my self threw failure with him and stop letting him talk to me anyway and…

Don't communicate with him! If you really really have to because of the kids just keep it like that. Nothing personal. Dedicate your time to your kids and yourself! Stay busy, that way you won't miss him and with time you will forget about it.

@kacl your right i need to just focus on me and work and just ingore his calls and really talk to someone to get over him and i would have to call him if i need something for hos daughter like he dont call and ask or anything he will leave and disappear that why i should just put him on child support

When the pain of staying the same outweighs the pain of change you will command better for yourself and leave... I know the feeling of abuse and it's absolutely devastating ... Waiting on him to change is insane (doing the same thing over and expecting a different result)... I'm sorry to say he doesn't change and it doesn't get better unless you leave... The question is when are you tired of feeling like this?

@sparklymama immmmmmm done trust meeee

Well then you just have to move on there's no how to... Because everyone is different... The only thing I can say is take it one day at a time and above all stop communicating with him