Need advice on how to talk to my other half ... I’m feeling so frustrated that he chooses when he wants to parent. I…

Need advice on how to talk to my other half ... I’m feeling so frustrated that he chooses when he wants to parent. I have to wake up with our son every morning While he continues to sleep in ... he will sit on his phone rather then play and he would rather stay home to do nothing then do family things together. But When he does have time with Xander they have an amazing connection so I know he can be a good dad. I feel like a single parent 80 percent of the time 😕