Anyone else’s almost 2 year old extreme rough with people all the time, especially mom?! My son hits, kicks, bites until he breaks skin, scratches me until I bleed, pulls my hair out, etc. I am over it! I spank him once it gets to that point but what else can I do?! Obviously nothing is working and is this just an age thing? He will be 2 in February
🤦🏽✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽and spanks don't do nothing to him but either make him do it again are throw a tantrum temper and hit his head to stuff are through himself onto the floor 😐
@jerryjrmommy, ughhh mine does the same shit. Or he throws everything and then gets pissed off bc he wants it. 😒
@babyjjsmommy yeah that's my son too 🤦🏽🤦🏽 I don't know how to handle that shit its getting stressful because i dont want him to really hurt himself i talked to his pediatrician about it and she said he will grow out of it & to let him be a boy🙄,my question is when do he stop it & one wired thing I notice he will listen to his dad better then he will listen to me
When they get up from a time out you just have to pick them back up & sit their behind down. It’s tedious but , keep doing it til they get the point. Otherwise they will walk all over you. My mom said she would take me clothes & all & sit me in a cold shower to stop the tantrums etc.
I bit my son once back too when he bit me a good time when he was younger & never did it again. Lol
- My brother used to bite, I went down for a visit, he bit me hard enough to bruise and break skin; I bit him back real quick. Of course my mom freaked, but he never bit anyone again.. works 😅
Ok so you are trying to teach him to not hit and be violent by hitting him and showing him violence? How is that supposed to work exactly?
@pregomego, you talking to me? Sweetheart, a spank on the bottom occasionally is not a HIT. If you’re one of those that is against spanking, might as well hop off this status because clearly we do not parent the same and have different views.
@pregomego, and a spanking is now considered violent? 😂 k. It’s a different story when you are acting in anger against your child, but when you are disciplining with a small spanking that obviously isn’t even hard enough to get his attention apparently.. come on.
Time out. My son has been getting it since 1 year old. Put him in there for a few mins. His crib or a room and lock it and after explain to him “no hitting” “no biting” or whatever and works everything. Just be consistent. He’s a boy he needs discipline.
So, I have no problem with a swift smack to a padded bottom occasionally, say if he tries to run into the street. Spanking, in my experience, works well when used more as a shock value kind of punishment. Immediate action and response. BUT, if he continues to behave in such a way even after a spanking one or two times, it is time to try something different. Stern no and brief explanation as to why it is bad (so they don't lose focus) is common sense. But, if he continues behavior after this, ignore him. Put him in time out, or show him that whatever he is doing is not getting a response. If he gets more violent, isolate and ignore (just until he calms) We humans are social creatures and do not function well in isolation. What do you think?
@tavi.young, I agree. Usually my route of doing things. I rarely spank, because obviously it’s not enjoyable for either of us. As you said, in certain situations it is a quick attention getter and at times can Work instantly, however I would never continue to spank after it has already failed. It’d be pointless. That was sort of the point with this status, although some took it as something completely different. I definitely plan to implement time out and feel that it will be more effective the older he gets.
Definitely! It will take some getting used to. No momma wants to leave her baby when he is upset even when it was their actions that led them there. Know it is not neglect as long as they are fed and bathed in a safe place and you aren't leaving them for more than an hour max. Good luck!
@tavi.young, yes definitely. We are moving into our own place soon where he will have his own room so it will definitely make it easier to enforce such things. Thank you!
I know the feeling, I am in the process of moving at 35 weeks and totally understand wanting to try and get son to do a little better before moving into new environment or have to deal with the kicking and scratching and biting later in your pregnancy. You got this, girly!
@babyjjsmommy, yes i was talking to you. Laying hands on someone is violence yes. You are trying to show your dominance and power over your child by striking them.
@pregomego, did you even read your comment? Intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone?! A spanking is not meant for any of that. Maybe a bit of discomfort but a spanking is typically not harder than simply gettin their attention. I recall you starting shit before on a previous post and you made absolutely no sense, so I’m just going to ignore you. Thanks, have a good day. 😁
@pregomego, and no, a spanking is not meant to show dominance over a child. Please educate yourself instead of googling shit and going off of that. You sound ridiculous right now.
@babyjjsmommy, I’m going off of my childhood. And all of the psychology articles out there that say it does more harm than good. You yourself said it’s not working so why keep doing it.
@babyjjsmommy, and I’m not starting shit you are putting stuff out there for comment by putting it on a social media site. Don’t want people to comment on how you raise your kids? Don’t make it public.
@pregomego, I’ve taken psychology myself and I’m fully aware of what they say. However, what works for one does not work for all, correct? Yes, I am. For people to comment and give suggestions on what to do with my situation, however you simply jumped on the word spanking and ran with it, not giving advice at all. So please excuse yourself. I’ve received helpful advice from all others who commented. Thanks
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@pregomego, you talking to me? Sweetheart, a spank on the bottom occasionally is not a HIT. If you’re one of those that is against spanking, might as well hop off this status because clearly we do not parent the same and have different views.