It was the best thing leaving my daughters dad...but I still can't help feel like I've let her down.…

Babe youre an amazing mum. I don't believe in staying with someone who treats you like shit or making you unhappy just for your kids. Kids are so smart they pick up on stuff and it's better for them to see their main caregiver happy. Be happy and as long as she has her mum and sees her dad if he makes the effort she will be fine x

My husband isnt my sons dad but hes a better father than his actual dad! You havent let her down at all. My ex treated me so badly and it wouldnt have been fair on Ellis if id stayed with him. I would have been so unhappy which wouldnt have been good for him. Your girl has a mummy who loves her and thats all that matters x

@mum2sky Thank you hun! Im just so pissed off that he gets to walk off scott free...like he doesnt have a kid...hes not seen her since the start of August...and doesnt want ti see her obviously..as i gave him a chance to see her and that was the start of November xx

@kayteamay @mum2sky Yeah, my new partner is amazing with her! Couldnt fault him at all..but does hurt a bit as thats how her actual dad shouldve been with her. Thank you girls..

Just had a hard year...cant wait for it to be over xx

Everything this happens for a reason. Does she see her dad?

@kayteamay No she doesnt...he hasnt wanted to see her since we broke up...and before then..would see her every 2-3 months xx

Whether you stayed or left him, doesn't change how he behaves. Going purely from your past status', he wasn't coming across as much of a Dad. I'd rather show my children how independent anyone can be than stay with someone who doesn't treat you right. It must be upsetting but it's up to him to be in her life. No one can make him. As long as you keep the door open then it's his loss.

@winterbaby95 fuck him then. If he isnt wanting to see her then shes better off without him!

"It's better to come from a broken home than to live in one" seeing his child every few months is hardly Dad of the year is he? The last thing your daughter needs is to see you hurting constantly! Hope you're ok! Xx

I think you're so strong for making a positive decision for both you and your daughter. I'm so happy for you that you've found someone who is good with her. Never feel bad for making a decision that saved your sanity, you're the amazing mum you are because you don't have the stress of a crappy partner and your daughter will realise that one day. It's on her "dad" to show her he is her dad. And if his actions contradict that, she'll grow up seeing who does give her that love. Kids are resilient and incredibly smart.

@sara-lou86 @kayteamay @genieh @noshinxoxo Thank you girls... Im just so disgusted by him...I dont know what i did to deserve it but either way..if he wanted to be a dad he shouldnt have let me or my family get in the way? Just no excuse... im upset and angry...because not only can he not be bothered...her own grandparents...aunties...etc havent been in touch with me to see her either...so guess thats just the sort of family he comes from.. x