I need some advice. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months. 3 months in we got pregnant. He wanted me to get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption, but I put law school on hold and stood by my values. I kept my baby! Our sex life used to be fire. We did it almost every night, but now I’m lucky to have him even hold me. We’ve had sex probably 3 times since we found out we were pregnant. We recently moved in together. He’s being sweet again. Sounds kind of pathetic, but he gives me foot rubs and says he loves me etc. He’s told me that the pregnancy was a traumatizing thing that’s happened but he wants to try to make things work. The reason why I’m writing is because I love him but I feel empty. He doesn’t fill up my love tank. Things have changed so much between us, and I’ve endured a lot of hurt caused by him due to me keeping my baby. I need intimacy. I need sex. I need passion. I need to feel loved, wanted and appreciated. He’s told me to be patient with him—that things have gotten better and they’ll continue to get better. But I’ve lost hope. I feel empty... what do I do?
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@littleonemorning, I have. There’s a lot that doesn’t even have to do with me or him and I together. I fear nothing will change and that this is it.
@pink.panda, yes, but you guys are preparing to bring another human into this world. That isn’t something that some people can adjust to as quickly as others. My best bet would to be to talk to him and really see if there is something more behind the issues.
Agree. He’s asking you to be patient and I think it is only fair to acknowledge that. But communicate with him, seems like your love language is more sexual, you can’t throw it all in the trash because it isn’t happening right now. He is probably just adjusting like he said and if later on nothing has changed than you can leave.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
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Does these sound like signs of him cheating and him having someone back at home ??????
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@pink.panda, well it seems like you may have made up your mind already about the direction you want to go. My advice would be to continue to be patient and then go from there.