Don't roll over at 4 am and tell me to be calm. I've been up with her for over 2 hours, I'm tired…

Don't roll over at 4 am and tell me to be calm. I've been up with her for over 2 hours, I'm tired and frustrated. Don't ask me how my night was at 4:30 when I'm still awake. You darn good and well how my night has been. But you slept peacefully all night and get mad when you think I'm being a grouch. If you don't want me to be a grouch then you can help me at night, or even when you get home from work. But you make excuses like doing the laundry or dishes so i still have to do everything with her. And the laundry nd dishes are done btw.