(This is not a joke lol need y'all to help me out need advice )I Have a question y'all. this is…

(This is not a joke lol need y'all to help me out need advice )I Have a question y'all. this is something that's been kinda bothering me not for my sake but my mom's. So can't tell y'all every little detail because it would take a hella long time to explain .

So I have two brothers one passed and the other I don't claim as family anymore . Saying that to say this , between the two I have 8 nieces and nephews which married women that seems to be mentally unstabled smh I remember my mom talking to my middle brother about his ex wife now telling him it's gonna be trouble with her . Also my mom told my oldest that it wouldn't be a good idea to marry his girl either but they did anyways smh . Sooooooo fast forwarding they had these kids my oldest bro had 5 (2 girls and 3 boys )and my oldest middle had 3(1 Girl and 2 boys). Both wives are the causing that we don't have a relationship with them . At one point my oldest bro would always drop the two oldest boys off over our house all the time they remember coming over and having fun my parents would get them Xmas gifts every Xmas and spend time with them all the time smh . Now, u problem wondering , well, why not the girls lol well my bro' s wife told him that " she can get my boys but , not my girls!! smh 🤦🏿‍♀️ what? Soooo we never could spend time with my nieces and the youngest boy hadn't been born yet if u wondering what happened to the 5th one so yo make a long story short she stopped them from coming over and also brother had moved out with another women smh . And with my other bro we had no problem until they divorced then she turned them against us too .

So with that being said we have had some communication but it wasn't authentic hey I want us to reconnect it was hey come to my ghetto a@$ party or come to my graduation after many years of not calling us . We did go to ones grad. But he acted like we wasn't even there lol like we owed him something smh .

They are quite old now 17-24

And still obviously think we owe them something 🤦🏿‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ I'm kinda bothered because my mom has alllllll these grandkids and a few greatgrands and she has never met them . Don't even ask me how their grandma is doing "they don't care " didn't come to my dad's funeral or nothing all because their mom's poisoned their brains .

So I'm asking am I in the wrong for not chasing after behind them? Trying to explain our side 🤔