So I just have to rant for a second...
So I just have to rant for a second...
I understand trying to get pregnant is rough, especially when you want a child soo badly. You can get symptoms of pregnancy from wanting to be pregnant so bad, your body can start to believe you are pregnant because you are so desperate to be pregnant.. Just because you are nauseous or have cravings doesn't mean you are pregnant, not everyone has implantation bleeding!
I understand some people don't have regular periods. But if you haven't gotten a period in 1+ months and you're still testing negative. GO TO THE DOCTOR, editing a pregnancy test to see a positive is just not good mentally! Because on here women will congratulate you or say they see a line, you get your hopes up and when it's not the case it can be upsetting. If you aren't getting two undeniable lines(not meaning dark, but to the point you don't have to edit your test), you are either not pregnant or testing too soon! And in early pregnancy so many things can happen, for example a chemical. Not getting your period means the lining of your uterus isn't shedding and you can develop uterus cancer or it can cause other medical issues.
Be patient ladies.. No I'm not being negative or mean. But some of you just don't understand how much you are really hurting yourself emotionally and the effects of wanting so badly to be pregnant can trick your mind.. I hope everyone trying to have a baby gets there bfp soon, but be patient. And if you are having a lot of troubles see a doctor, ladies on here are not doctors, you need professional advice!
Tayler·
Omg yes!! Too many women think having sex one month will result in a pregnancy when that's not usually the case.. 6 months later with no pregnancy they begin to make themselves believe they can't have children when that's not the case either. It takes time and patience!
Lacie Marie·
I hope some woman actually read this. Before i got pregnant with my daughtee, i was trying for about 3ish years. My despration and desire to be pregnant made me even feel phantom kicks, have morning sickness, crave weird things, ect. The human mind is a powerful thing.
Allison·
Very well written and presented.
CT❤·
@tayler exactly the month I got pregnant I had sex 3 times from the time my period ended to the time I was supposed to get my period. They think having sex a million times a day will make it happen faster when in reality it lowers the "strength" of sperm. And I know what it's like to really want to be pregnant. I lost my last daughter at 18w. So it's not like I'm trying to be mean, but it's reality.
CT❤·
@laciemarie yes! When you want something so badly your mind can really make things worse by making you believe it. And BTW, i can not believe your daughter is a month already! When i joined i jus found out i was pregnant and you were only about 15 weeks! Lol
Tayler·
@me.mykids.and.i I know exactly what you mean! You aren't being unfair or irrational. Your post is 100% true! I tried for my second for 8 months. I myself thought I would forsure be pregnant after 2 months of trying and was sadly mistaken. It's sad to see so many women in denial then weeks later disappointed and upset. It's something alot of women want, but to let it consume you is unhealthy!
CT❤·
@bhawks.mama thank you! I'm not trying to be mean, but these women don't understand what they are doing to themselves and how important it is to get your body regulated if you are not pregnant and not getting a period.
Lacie Marie·
@me.mykids.and.i oh my gosh i know! She just turned a month today! Time honestly flys to dang fast! Youll be having your little one soon! Cant wait to see pictures of her! 😊
Allison·
@me.mykids.and.i I 110% agree with you. Overthinking is the worst thing to do - especially when TTC
CT❤·
@tayler exactly! And by having others fill your mind with false hope is just heartbreaking. I had gotten pregnant in June of 2016, my husband was away from August 2016 until March 2017, I lost our daughter in Sept of 2016 while he was away. And from that time until he got home I got to know my body, how to track things (not overly but enough that I know my body better) and by the end of April I was pregnant. Sometimes you just need to get in tune with your body. The month I got pregnant I had no signs whatsoever that I was pregnant. They think because you are having "symptoms" you have to be pregnant. A woman's body is a complicated thing, you have to learn your body and know what's normal and what's not.
CT❤·
@laciemarie I can't believe how fast time is going, and I had my boys at 35 weeks so I know she could come at any moment since I have passed that point with her! I hope she is here by Christmas! Lol
Tayler·
@me.mykids.and.i I'm so sorry that you lost your daughter! That is heartbreaking!! I'm glad you were able to get pregnant and carry on afterwards! You are a strong woman! & Yes I see clearly negative tests on here and tons of women commenting "I see a line, congrats!" Like wtf no???
CT❤·
@tayler thank you! that's my point though, people think because I have children that I don't know what it's like to want a baby really bad or that I'm just insensitive, but I see that too and it's heartbreaking because then they get their period and they are convinced they had a chemical
No just your test was negative but you didn't want to believe it... I don't even comment on them anymore because 95% of the time I don't see another line.
Tayler·
@me.mykids.and.i Yes! Me too! I always want to comment but the amount of women that say they see the line as well would all gang up and it would turn into an argument. Like you said it's heartbreaking!
CT❤·
@tayler but I notice it's the same women who are convinced they are also getting positives..😒
Sylvia Burgess·
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I went through this for 9 months. Every time I'd get my period I would ball my eyes out. It really made my anxious, depressed, and made me think I was infertile. Your mind definitely plays tricks on you when you want something so bad! It even had my husband depressed thinking he was the problem. It got to the point where I got strong enough and told myself to get over it and just go with the flow. It'll happen. Sure enough a month later I got my BFP..
CT❤·
@sylvia_biddle yes! Sex isn't meant to be stressful, you have to sit back and enjoy it with your SO and know that sex everyday multiple times a day isn't good for ttc either. Women have such a misconception of becoming pregnant. Every woman is different, every pregnancy is different. I've been pregnant 4 times, 2 boys and 2 girls and each of my pregnancies have been so different.