Omg I dont know what's going on with my oldest daughter its like she likes to press peoples buttons…

Omg I dont know what's going on with my oldest daughter its like she likes to press peoples buttons a lot and yells at people and she gets mean and then she plays her games of not caring and not being serious when someone's getting on to her and when you spank her for doing it she still does and then she tried to tell me to hang on and I told her no you go do as your told now and I don't know why she's acting like this being around adults still the crap she's pulling isn't right of to do and her playing her little game. I'm trying everything and it seems nothing seems to work.😡😭