@maesmommy04, I understand that it is but I don’t see him trying to quit

@brianniacarr I understand that completely. Which is why I keep pushing my boyfriend to see a heart doctor. I'm just saying it's a frustrating situation for him as well.

Our hospital won't let visitors enter with smoke on their clothes. They request they come in clean smoke free clothes or they provide scrubs.

@maesmommy04, I figured you went through it cause somebody who used to smoke said the same thing and maybe if smoked I would think differently but I just want what’s best for my kids and for me it’s having both parents healthy and alive.

@brianniacarr I can understand. I just speak from experience. I've tried and failed several times to quit.

@maesmommy04, I just feel very strongly about smoking in general and feel he shouldn’t even want to be around the kids until the scent is off of him just for the safety of his children. Like i understand it’s hard but if you have the motivation to be a healthier person for your kids then why not use that to push you to stop? But that’s my opinion

@angelia.lyn321, yeah but mine are both newborns so hopefully by the time they get old enough to realize it he won’t be smoking anymore or we’ll be in different houses.

@brianniacarr, yes it seriously drives me crazy. I tell my son that daddy is yucky for doing it but I feel like that only made my son want to do it more so now I kinda try to ignore it as much as possible because as soon as he gets a reaction out of me he does it even more 😒 I just can't win.... I find it disgusting as well.

I don’t mind the occasional cigarette but or black in mild but when you’re doing it every other day multiple times a day I get tired of smelling it

@brianniacarr the scent is difficult to get off. Do what you feel best. Just do not deprive him of showing his children affection

@caseysmommy92, we weren’t even in the same state my whole pregnancy cause he was going to school and he was stressed so he was smoking more than usual and now he smokes a lot

@angelia.lyn321, see that’s bad I don’t want my kids thinking that smoking is cool cause I find it disgusting and I hate it with a passion

@maesmommy04, that’s what I was gonna do. If he wants to smoke then he’s gonna have to get the scent off of him to hold the babies.

@brianniacarr well help him with quitting. But don't stress him over it or it will make it harder. Quitting is a very difficult thing to do. Even if you have children. Sometimes that makes it more difficult. Also I can almost guarantee that not letting him pick his kids up will not help with the quitting. Have him wash his hands yes.

My so vapes... it doesn't stink as bad and the smell doesn't linger AS bad... but still does a little bit... but it still drives me crazy. What makes me even more crazy is my 3yo son can see his daddy out the window vaping and now he thinks it's cool and he will find random thinks like blocks and act like he's vaping.

Smokimg is fucking gross. I made my bf stop when i got pregnant 😷😷😷

@maesmommy04, well while I was pregnant I asked why he smoked and we discussed it and he said he would work on quitting so he would be done by the time the babies got here but that didn’t happen and now he smokes like every other day and i hate the smell very much

@brianniacarr I can understand situations like that. I have a long story as well. Which ended in divorce. I'm just curious why it wasn't brought up during pregnancy. I'm not judging just curious. Cause it seems to bother you quite a bit.

@brianniacarr yes. Second hand smoke is worse than the baby smoking a cigarette themselves. beware 💀☠

@maesmommy04, well this was an unexpected pregnancy. It’s a long story but i didn’t know he smoked until after I got pregnant. We knew each other for a very short time when all this happened.

Did he smoke before hand? If so that should have been brought up before having children.

@skysmommy04, yeah I will. He won’t be holding our babies until he cleans that mess off or stops smoking all together cause thats just disgusting

@brianniacarr, no tell him he needs to respect that’s gross

@beebaby, it does? Oh noooo he won’t be doing this anymore

@skysmommy04, I agree but sometimes he just grabs them and I won’t know he went to smoke until after he does

It's a no, he needs to wash his hands and face and change his clothes. second hand smoke can cause colds and ear infections in newborns. My MIL didn't see my son until she stopped smoking.

He needs to wash up before hell no