Maybe someone on here can help guide me. Two years ago, a few months after my son was born I was…
Maybe someone on here can help guide me. Two years ago, a few months after my son was born I was diagnosed with postpartum depression, I had an alcoholic for a husband that didn't understand what was going on with me any more than I did. I stopped taking my meds and A year ago I left my husband for another married man. I found out that I was pregnant in june and that man said to get an abortion, I refused and he hasn't spoke a word to me since and recently got his wife pregnant. No matter how much I try, I cannot find it in me to find any love for this pregnancy, maybe even this baby. It feels more like a burden that I have to carry alone. I'm angry and sad and I feel like everything in my life has gone horribly wrong. How can I fix this? How do I get myself back? How do I come back from this? It's like I'm watching someone else's dramatic biography but I'm not, I'm very much stuck in this nightmare that's become my reality. Pregnancy is not beautiful for me, the aftermath of pregnancy isn't beautiful, it has taken me so far away from myself and I'm afraid that I'll never find her again and now what do I do with a second child when I haven't recovered from the first?
Buddhist Mama·
I'm sorry you are going through this I can relate a lot to your story. I'm super tired tho and am about to go to bed but I want to talk more. Message me any time.
Tiffany·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I’m sorry you are feeling so alone... it is always possible to persue adoption for the second child.... agencies will help you get the counseling that you need... and help get you on the road to recovery... I actually know personally 2 people, one cousin and another friends... who were in a bad place emotionally when they got pregnant with their second child, choose not to abort... but instead choose adoption and both have felt it was the best thing for both them and the child... so then you know the child will be loved and you can focus on becoming healthy yourself and being the best mom you can be for your child
Autumn·
There is a lot to address in all that... First and foremost I think it's important to identify if you want to raise the child or not ... Adoption may be something to consider... And if you do want to raise the child I think it may be wise to seek therapy to begin to identify what you're feeling and just put one foot in front of the other take things one day at a time
Steph·
I have to go with what the other ladies are saying. I can’t speak from experience but it sounds like you would benefit from some therapy. They can help you sort out your feelings and how you want to the handle the pregnancy and baby. You have to decide if you want to keep the baby or do you want to look into adoption. I cannot tell you what to do in this situation. I would take your time and think about what you want to do.
Marilu·
I can tell you that sometimes we end up where we thought we'd never be. It's pretty much the consequences of our choices. I've made some of those myself. But we can't dwell on the moment or the past. I know how hard it is too. Trust me. Relationships aren't permanent but motherhood is. The pregnancy is beautiful for you but right now you're just overwhelmed with other emotions clouding your judgment. I'm feeling that way about myself because of my marriage right now. I'm lost. But I'm deciding to bring me back. It's hard. But anything worth having is worth fighting for. You'll get through this long journey and come out shining on the other end.
Ashton·
Get back on your meds too. It might help sort out feelings as well.b
melanie snyder·
Мама дочки-младенца
I do not know you, but girl we all make mistakes. And my last pregnancy was no walk in the park either! Please disregard any comments on here that are judgmental because none of us have room to judge!! I think the fact that you are talking about it and reaching out to other moms is a GREAT step. You are strong, you are capable and everything happens for a reason. Your facing an emotional battle but girl we are all in this together you will get through it. I agree that adoption is an amazing option, AND that having the courage to love this baby who is yours is beautiful. You just have to get through the valley. Soon youll see the sun ❤️
Toya·
If you can't find love in anything find live in yourself and in knowing your baby is part of you...the purest part. Hopefully this helps a little
Alliaddiabbi131516·
Мама троих детей
At this year's there's no love I guess ... Don't be sad trust me u will love ur son when he gets here .. trust me there no big huge love then ur kids .... Don't denied ur baby be happy u going to have e another one trust me you will have more love and happiness