I need suggestions on what to do. I’m 19 years old and I still live with both my parents, who I have a great relationship with. My boyfriend still lives with his dad and little brother who I also have a great relationship with. We live about 10min apart. I’m usually ALWAYS at my boyfriends house. But after the birth of my son, I would feel a lot more comfortable being at MY parents house. My boyfriend disagrees and wants to be in his own element at his house. I’m just feeling really torn on what to do because I have already told my mom I’d be coming home with the baby. My mom has always been my number one supporter and I know she will take care of me if I need her, without stepping over any boundaries. But I cant say the same for my boyfriends dad. He’s great and I love him but I don’t know if I’ll be completely comfortable. Sorry for the rant, but it’s been on my mind and driving me crazy.
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When I had my baby i had this problem because we're living with my s.o mom and he wanted to come home right away but I told him I wouldn't be comfortable because I know my mom would take care of me and his mom wouldn't, plus I had ppd so once he saw how I was better of with my mom he stayed with us till we came back home , I feel like you'll be better off with your mom hope you guys work something out 😁
Stay at your house. Your comfort is just as important, u dont wanna be walking on egg shells in a house u dont feel comfortable in. Your gonna be shirtless most of the time breastfeeding & doing skin to skin (if u breastfeed) & u dont want 2 other men looking at u. Plus your bf isnt thinking about his dad & brothers comfort.. do they wanna hear a crying baby every 2 hours throughout the night? Probably not. Sounds like u have it made at ur moms, he should be the one moving into your place. Getting all the help u can for a baby is very important, may not seem like it, but u will see once the baby comes. Its a lot of work (when I was pregnant I turned down a lot of offers/ help bcus I thought I could do it on my own but little did I know caring for little person with no sleep is hard stuff)
Compromise. Maybe let him know you'll be at home while you recover, get help and learn how to be a new mom after a few weeks you will stay there for a while? But imo you should be home
You're both young NOT married so he can visit and vice versa
To be honest go where you’ll feel comfortable you’ll need help and lots of rest unfortunately your bf will have to compromise and understand because it will help you along in many areas