I usually don't talk about this kinda stuff, especially on social media but I just want to know if…

I’m so sorry while I don’t personally know what you are going through I understand that it can affect your whole world he needs to be understanding I get it was a while ago but that isn’t something you can just get over and he needs to understand that

First you need to know that you are perfectly normal and are capable of being loved as well as giving love!

Next, remember that he is your husband. He is your confidante, life partner, and your lover. He is all yours when it comes to being intimate... so don’t be shy, and enjoy trying different things.

You are enough! And if he is giving you what you want in all aspects, then you can adjust and learn to give him what he wants as long as it doesn’t feel wrong or you have your reasons for not wanting to do it.

When you are happy together, you will begin to feel more confident and happier in different types of situations too.

I hope I helped a little 😊

Thank you both so much @amal.a @mommysbabies

Keep your head up just ignore what he says I would suggest talking about going to therapy together so maybe he can understand what is going on sometimes they have trouble listening to us

Yes @mommysbabies we do couples therapy as well. And he's getting better with it. I just beat myself up so much about it.

I was molested at 13. While it wasn't hardcore it was still a violation of my innocence. I have never really connected the two but I get uncomfortable just watching a make out scene on tv. I won't watch anything too revealing and I don't trust men. My husband wants certain things and I won't do it because I feel like a prostitute if I do. I know anything goes with my husband but I'm really not comfortable doing it only because it makes me feel "dirty" and not like a loving wife pleasing her husband. In my mind he's only wanting sex not love. I feel like any grown man that will do that to a 13 year old child means that men only want sex and nothing else so it makes me feel uncomfortable. However I would love to please my husband and know it's because he wants me and not just using me as an object. And I know he loves me and wants me. It's just hard overcoming that feeling.

Why it’s not your fault it’s the sick pardon my French but asshole who took your childhood away from you

Awww am so sorry that u had to go Thur that

Yes. But he doesn't know the pain and hurt I have inside. I just never say anything

@morganmommy79 I feel very similar. It was an older girl that did it to me when I was about 9. Kissing is uncomfortable for me and giving oral sex is too. I think it has something to do with using my mouth that makes me feel funny.

@ralphina94 thank you 😘

It may help some to talk about it @tholliswilliams

@towens921 I plan on going to Therapy soon. I'm just so nervous and embarrassed to speak on everything

Don't be afraid. It's the safest place to get it all out @tholliswilliams

@towens921, it's a normal reaction. If you don't find someone you trust to talk to write in a journal. It helps to release those feelings somewhere safe.