How has your second pregnancy effected your relationship with your S/O?
@williamspoudmommy it was very dumb and controlling of him to think that you would just up and sign them over. I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I hope you guys can work something out
@juliemboyd the only way I would sign my rights over would be if I became terminally ill. And over my dead body would u ever sign my rights over.
@williamspoudmommy that's how both of my two are. They only want me to do everything and won't let their dad help, and he does the bare minimum bc of that. He could try a little harder and not make me feel like a single mom. But I read some of your other comments. Does your SO really expect you to agree with signing rights over for your first?? That's crazy and it sounds like there are other deeper issues at play here. If he doesn't want your second, he doesn't deserve to solely keep your first. But there's also no forcing him to want the new baby.
@juliemboyd no. I'm pregnant with the second and my first born only wants me to put him to bed because that's his routine
@williamspoudmommy oh no! That is not good! What's wrong with him?! Has he explained his reasoning?
@williamspoudmommy are you both okay right now? Does he help with the kids? I think that we'd all be a little bit happier if the men would at least offer to help with the kids. It was the worst for us, when he would be an ass and not help and then by the time they went to sleep he'd want sex from me. Like I'm supposed to hold down the house, wrangle two crazy kids and STILL have the energy to do anything else he wanted after that?! Not a chance
@thetoomerfamily I say no a lot because I'm nauseous at night and that's when he wants it the most.
@juliemboyd I'm not worried that we won't be able to handle it. I'm more worried about our relationship and how we'll handle our ups and downs
My husband always want a lot of sex wen I'm pregnant.. idk why but that's when he begs me every night for it and I say no a lot..
@williamspoudmommy my sex drive has definitely improved so that has helped a lot. We still have way too many downs, I think most of the time we're both just going through the motion. We argue less bc neither one of us wants to talk to the other, which I feel is worse than the arguing. I'm honestly not sure what's going to happen to us. But everyone's relationship is different. Are you worried that you guys won't be able to handle a second child?
@williamspoudmommy no, we stayed together through all of it. We should have split up. We spent the whole time fighting and arguing and just not being very good for or to each other. It was terrible.
@juliemboyd what happened to the relationship durring that time? Did you split up?
@skyy12221 my boyfriend and I were happy with our first and where we were at in our lives. But since I found out about this pregnancy if we split up he wants me to sign over 100% of my rights from our first and doesn't want his name on the birth certificate of our second
Mine went down the tubes with my second. Didn't help that I couldn't have sex the whole nine months, and then after my sex drive was completely gone for the next year and a half
@williamspoudmommy that's not good... did you both want another child? With my 3rd, it took my hubby a while to come around cause he wasn't ready for a 3rd.
@juliemboyd I hope things get better between us. And I know you aren't supposed to hide stuff from your spouse but he knows me so well that he knew I was hiding something from him. And well when I found out I was pregnant so did my sister in law (his sister) is pregnant too. And she wanted that hidden from the family that lives by us because if her history of miscarriages between her first and second and she told me not to tell anyone. I tried to keep my promise for her and I broke the other night because if this and told him and I think because of me telling him I think things are getting better.